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Dear ,
This week I have been reflecting on Gratitude.
Do you remember as a child being encouraged to write thank you letters for the gifts you received at Christmas? Can you recall how much easier it was to write to the relative who gave you something you really liked and were grateful for, compared with the ill fitting jumper from your aunt?
When we have genuine feelings of gratitude writing the letter becomes easy, almost automatic, as our feelings rush out onto the page.
We can extend this principle to other areas of our lives today. If we approach the working day for example or perhaps our important relationships with gratitude, imagine how much more positive energy that will generate and the impact it will have.
Right now, take a few seconds and reflect on the things that you are, or could be grateful for. I guarantee you will feel an immediate benefit.
Continuing the Gratitude theme, I am extremely grateful and excited for the opportunity to share with you the new version of the Successblog at www.ursuccess.net.
Please take a few minutes to have a look at the archives of articles and help yourselves to the complimentary downloads available in the Resources section.
I would love to hear your comments and thoughts.
Daniel
URSuccess.net
The Power of Positive Affirmations
Like many things we don't fully understand, it would be easy to dismiss the power of affirmations, however given the fact that large numbers of respected and highly successful people use them, they deserve further investigation.
Regrettably, many of us grow up with a set of beliefs about ourselves that are less than empowering. As we grow up we begin to put ourselves down for any slight failure, whether real or imagined. Our parents, teachers and other influential adults can inadvertently create a diminished self image and install a number of limiting beliefs. This is compounded by the numbers of times we think or talk to ourselves everyday in negative terms. The use of positive affirmations is a powerful technique to change that negative self-talk into something more positive.
Leading thinkers and researchers on the use of affirmations include Jack Canfield and John Assaraf. Research on the effectiveness of positive affirmations as a life enhancing tool has led to the formation of the following eight step system for setting positive affirmations.
1. Affirmations should start with the words I AM. These are two of the most powerful words in the English language as they send a command to the subconscious part of our minds.
2. Positive - our minds like to work in pictures, therefore we cannot not think about something. So trying not to think of a pink elephant will undoubtedly bring up an image of a pink elephant. An affirmation such as I am enjoying breathing clean air will be more effective than I am no longer a smoker.
3. State in the present tense. This sets up an imbalance in the subconscious which it will then seek to correct. For example if you want to gain a particular position at work, state I am the regional sales manager, rather than I want to be or I will be.
4. Specific - Our subconscious minds require clear specific instructions which allow them to accurately pursue what we have programmed in the form of positive affirmations. So "I am rich" is not specific enough, better to say "I am earning $100,000 per year". You may also like to add the phrase "this or something better", because if you are too limiting in your desires, such as "I want to marry Susan", she might not be interested, available or the best match for you.
5. Contain an active verb - without getting into high school grammar mode, an active verb is a do-ing word such as living, having, achieving, earning and so on.
6. Contain a feeling - this magnifies the power of your affirmations by adding the fuel of emotion. Consider including feelings such as joyful, excited, thankful or freedom
7. Keep it brief - to be most effective, your affirmation should be easily remembered and repeated often. By keeping it brief you are far more likely to remember it. As a fun exercise you could consider trying to make it rhyme. In this way, similar to advertising jingles, your affirmation will stick in your head.
8. Make it personal - your affirmations should be about you. You will not be successful in trying to change another person, neither are you likely to be fully engaged with words that someone else has suggested for you.
A suggested format might look something like this:
"I am so thankful for the freedom that being a millionaire brings me" or "I am so proud to be accepting my diploma in front of my family and friends"
The final thing to remember about positive affirmations is that they must be repeated frequently to reprogram your subconscious into accepting they are true. Some teachers suggest 100 times a day, others recommend putting your affirmations on your bedside table and reciting first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
Finally for this edition I wanted to ask for your help in spreading the word about a special charity auction for the children in Haiti.
I was shocked to hear as many as 1 million children may have lost one or both parents.
To raise money for the Red Cross I am auctioning via Ebay the very first published copy of my new children's book - The Financial Fairy Tales - Dreams Can Come True.
Please help spread the word and if you feel able, make a bid, I would love one of my friends to win it.
Thank you
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