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How To Keep A Guy Interested
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How To Keep A Guy Interested
So, you've got his attention! He has noticed you. He likes how you look, how you talk, how you laugh, how you smell, how you flip your hair, how you tilt your head, and pretty much everything about you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's willing to take the risk of being rejected to ask for your number, call you up, and ask you out. You happily go on a date with him.
After a few dates, you can't help but feel this great chemistry between you two. He's perfect! You start to develop this intense, deep feelings towards him and you THINK that he must feel this too.
The bad news is he may not. Or, he has felt great chemistry at some point, but after a few dates, a few months or a few years into the relationship, he's changed. You notice that he's feeling less and less of it every time he's with you. Painful? Yes. Hard to watch? Yes. Confused? Yes. Been there before? I know I have.
After being in many short-lived relationships, I'm talking about relationships that ranged from a few dates to a serious relationship that lost its magic as time went.
I used to think that a guy's interest is one of those things that I have no control over. Either he likes me or he doesn't. And when I meet a guy who, as Bridget Jones says, likes me just the way I am, my search will be over. What a painful journey I ended up going through because of this FLAWED way of thinking! I want to share with you some hard-earned lessons.
, the first step to make a man stay interested in a woman is to stop doing the things that annoy him. All right.
Do you know what's the number one thing that most women (me included) do when we feel the guy is losing interest?
We try to CONVINCE him to change his mind. When a man just isn't interested, we beg, chase, plead, and do everything we can to try to change his mind. Bad idea! I tried it and it never worked.
Here's the thing: when it comes to keeping a guy interested, trying to CONVINCE him or TALKING HIM INTO liking you never, never, ever works.
The worst thing that a woman can do is to CONVINCE a man to like her. Every time you do this, it eats away the attraction he still feels inside. So, the next time, my dear reader, when you find yourself trying to change his mind (especially at 3am when he is desperate to go to sleep), DON'T do it!
When a woman tries to convince a man to like her, it annoys the heck out of him. A man immediately goes into a RESISTANT mode. He shuts down! Then, he gets annoyed every time a woman tries to show him how perfect she is for him. When a man feels annoyed, he immediately takes away a little of the attraction he feels towards you.
You can think of it as an attraction savings account. When he is head-over-heals about you, he puts a BIG deposit in the attraction savings account.
Each time you try to convince a guy, change his mind, and TELL him how he's supposed to feel about you, he withdraws from that attraction savings account. Little by little, that attraction savings account becomes smaller. Until one day, it's completely empty and poof, he's gone!
So, the best way to make a man stay interested in you is to
(1) stop doing CONVINCING and other annoying things that will make him withdraw from that attraction savings account,
(2) start doing things that grow the attraction savings account, and
(3) once that attraction savings account has enough deposits in it, a man is going to start thinking about a future with you and you alone.
Ahem, but, stop dreaming for a second. To get to step 3, we have to begin with step 1. So, here are three things I've learned from my past experiences that annoy a man and make him withdraw from the attraction savings account big and fast. I call them the three Cs that are not so Cute.
Not So Cute Behavior #1:
This one we've just talked about. It's any CONVINCING behavior that signals to a guy that he HAS to like you, he HAS to love you, he HAS to stay attracted to you, and he HAS to show his affections to you. This behavior is not cute at all, so let's stop doing it.
Not So Cute Behavior #2:
The second thing that makes any beautiful woman turn from a lovely angel to a little monster is this action called Complaining. Complaining to a guy, especially about something he can't change is extremely frustrating to him. For example, when a woman complains to a guy that he HAS to like her more. It's really something he can't just make happen. He can't make himself love you more. He has to FEEL it. He has no control over this. When a woman complains to a guy that he has to make changes to something he has no control over, he'll get annoyed, upset, and make a BIG withdrawal from the attraction savings account. Let's be cautious about complaining to him for things he has no control over.
Not So Cute Behavior #3:
The third thing that makes a guy withdraw from the attraction savings account is any Controlling behavior. I see this the most when a guy wants to go out with his buddies for a boys' night out. Suddenly, a woman tries to control his social calender and tells him when he can go out and when he can't. Can you imagine how shameful your man will feel when he has to call his buddies one by one and tell them that he has to miss the boys' night out because his girlfriend said so? Can you imagine how long after that phone call he'll be picked on by his buddies? Worse, every time his friends pick on him (you bet they will), he'll associate that resentment with you. We really don't want that. We want our men to only have good, loving, warm thoughts when they think about us, not resentment or annoyance. So, let's try to ditch the controlling behavior now.
Stopping the 3 Cs is the first GIANT step towards keeping a man interested. But to keep a man's attraction for months or years, a woman has to do more to add value to the relationship and grow the attraction savings account (I know, it's so hard to be a woman nowadays!) I'll share with you a 3-step system that helps grow a man's attraction.
, here's the big three tips!
Step 1: Give him space, space, plenty of space.
If you are concerned about keeping your man's interest, you may have noticed some indifference, impatience, or lack of interest. When a man shows his lack of interest, it's rarely just an accident. He does this to create an emotional distance from a woman because he feels crowded by her. I'm not talking about your taking all his space on his favorite, comfy bed. I'm talking about crowding a man by asking him questions about what he's thinking, how he feels about you, and where he thinks the relationship is heading.
Here's the thing: a woman's feelings towards a man grow when she's with him, but a man's feelings towards a woman grow when she's away from him. So, stop asking him questions. Stop crowding him. If he wants to tell you something, he will. Have you ever seen a guy back down from making a point about why his football team is so kicking ass? Yup. Give a guy plenty of space to get those sparks back.
Step 2: Switch your position with his position on your priority list
Who's the person at the top of your priority list? You or him? If it's him, it's time to do a reverse. There is something not too pretty in human nature, but men tend to take women who automatically put them at the top of their priority lists for granted. He starts to feel that he deserves this, he deserves that. The more a woman tries to please him, the more he feels displeased. I'd say it's time to stop this non-sense. His VIP days are over. If he wants you to treat him well, he'd better earn it. Once a guy realizes that there are actually CONSEQUENCES for being bad, he'll change.
Step 3: Engage in something that you're passionate about.
To bring passion back to a relationship, a woman has to be a passionate person herself and do something she truly, truly loves. Ask yourself this question: If I have 10 million dollars right now, what would I do with my life? What's your dream? Is it a hobby you're dying to indulge yourself in? Is it your passion in singing? Is it to have your own garden with your favorite roses? Is it riding a horse on a beach? Is it having your own fashion line? Whatever that dream is, it's time that you start taking small steps towards realizing it. Is it really that difficult to spend half a day each week to do the thing you truly want to do? Is it really that expensive to enroll in a class that will help you get closer to your dream? Start aligning your actions with what you truly want. I bet you anything that you'll discover this amazing energy and potential in yourself that you never knew existed!
These tips are the building blocks of a happy, healthy relationship. Once these are taken care of, every thing's in place for making him love you and commit to you, because who wouldn't want to commit to a happy, healthy relationship? if you want t learn more tips on how to keep a man interested, check out my bestselling ebook - 77 Secrets to Make Every Man Adore You, Chase You, Love You, and Commit to You.
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Talk soon,
-Robert Lee
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