Want Less Struggle?
I teach you from my life, the lives of my Alphas and the world around us. One thing that just popped out very strongly (i.e. 4 different Alphas tripped over this recently) is difficultly switching gears.
Meaning, once you get the bit between your teeth, you go all bull in a china shop and you can't 1) slow down 2) course correct 3) admit you're wrong or 4) stop before "it" appears done (by YOUR Alpha standards).
Relentless focus is a badass strength when you
NEED to stay locked on target. But what about when you need to ease off the gas? When new info arrives that says you are going the wrong way or at least, the long way? What about when the person you are working for TELLS you to do LESS? Or go faster??
I have coined a term for this. You suffer from OA.
OverAlphaing.
o·ver·al·pha oh ver al fa
noun: OverAlpha; verb: OverAlphaing
physical or mental
effort WAAY beyond what is required, asked for, needed. "she overalphaed the bake sale by bringing 3 dozen cupcakes in 4 flavors with different icings" | synonyms: | unnecessary effort, strain, struggle, toil, endeavor, hard work, labor; excessive "she was excessive in her apologies" |
Where Do You LOCK IN and Can't Stop?
That is a place you need to look at. You need to lock yourself in a safe room and perform an exorcism on that demon
driving you past warning signs.
Anytime you find any place inside of you, where YOU CANNOT CONTROL YOU, you should be very afraid. I'm sorry (not sorry) this sounds like a horror movie trailer. It is a horror movie.
My wonderful assistant is an Alpha and suffers from OA. I have to be very careful to give her boundaries, time limits and urgencies.
When you suffer from OA these are your BFFs! They will keep you from running 12 miles in the wrong direction on a 2 mile assignment.
So Here's a Quick Checklist For Handling Things
In Your Known OA zones:
- Do I have a time limit?
- How will I know when I am done?
- Do I clearly understand the purpose of what I am doing?
- Am I willing to be called off this task?
- What time am I going to bed? (set two ALARMS, you'll ignore #1)
- How often will I check in to get feedback on my direction & results?
- Under what circumstances will I stop, without calling myself a
failure?
The Universe, God, your best friend, your boss and your coach (ME!) need to be able to shift you without a battle plan.
You will do a LOT less damage to yourself when you learn to shift gears in your life like a manual engine.
You take foot off gas, engage the clutch, mindfully select & shift to your new gear and THEN re-engage gas. Need
help?
P.S. My garden is growing! I am so
excited to see all these little green sprouts coming up! I'll get you photos soon to show you the 4 planters I built. (Yes, I'm almost always building something).
P.P.S. We finished the 4 part series how to build your Empire last week! Lots of you wrote
me to tell me it was soo useful :-) Missed the last one? Law #4 - Benefactors.
Tanya Stewart is "The Alpha Woman Coach" and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level
Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon
Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success.
[Blocks] Alpha Don't Switch Gears Well...Do YOU?
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