Bipolar: Be Happy Despite Bipolar Disorder
Published: Tue, 04/01/14
Hi ,
How's it going?
I hope you're having a good day.
You know, so much of the material written about
bipolar disorder centers around the person with the
disorder and their happiness.
There really isn't a lot written about the supporter
and their own happiness, is there?
Today's subject is about how you deserve your
own happiness too, and you shouldn't have to put
it aside just because your loved one has bipolar
disorder.
DON'T!
You spend a lot of time as a supporter, and
one of the problems with when you're dealing
with bipolar disorder is that you can get caught
up in your loved one's struggle with their own
management of the disorder and your helping
them with it.
DON'T!
They may have a problem with their mood swings
and their own happiness because of it, but you
should not let this affect your own happiness, as
hard as this might be, just because of being their
supporter.
You should still do things that make you happy,
like:
- Hobbies
- Doing things you enjoy
- Doing things that make you feel good
- Taking care of your own needs
- Going out with friends
- Going to the movies
- Reading
- Watching videos that your loved one
may not want to watch with you
- Doing things by yourself
- Going shopping
- Spending time with your own family
- Spending time away from your loved one
- Taking a break from your loved one
- Taking a mini-vacation from your loved one
- Having a job outside the home
Just being around your loved one 24/7 will not help
you and your own mental health at all - you may get so
caught up in their world of bipolar disorder that you
might become as sick as they are!
DON'T!
You have a right to your own happiness. Don't delay
that happiness!
You really need to keep a life separate from your
loved one, for your own sake.
You have to hold onto your own happiness!
Grab it right now!
Take some time for R and R (rest and relaxation). Even
combat soldiers do that!
Don't stress yourself out by giving all your energy
to your loved one - save some for yourself as well.
Giving all your time and energy to your loved one will
make you stressed out and sick. And you don't want
that, do you?
DON'T!
Also, don't try to be your loved one's therapist. They
should have their own therapist. They should be
telling their therapist their problems, and not dumping
them on you or taking out their problems on you, just
because you are there!
Because your loved one has bipolar disorder, they may
get depressed and may try to "take you down" with them
when they are in that phase of their disorder. They may
want to use you as a shoulder to cry on, which might
steal your own happiness. Remember, don't act like their
therapist.
DON'T!
Again, you should not be their enabler, either, or that
will steal your own happiness as well. Don't encourage
them to continue unacceptable behavior.
That's one of the rules I've taught you as a supporter
in my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
So don't be your loved one's enabler, or you will be
robbing yourself of your own happiness.
DON'T!
You deserve a life of your own. You deserve to be
happy. You deserve an identity of your own outside
your relationship with your loved one with bipolar
disorder .
Don't get so caught up in their disorder and their
problems that you lose yourself in it/them.
DON'T!
Don't delay your own happiness. Take charge of it
beginning right now!
Don't let bipolar disorder steal your happiness!
DON'T!
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Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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