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 , well I've heard from quite a few of you saying how much you're going to miss this newsletter, so we've decided to morph it and gather the best of leadership, business, politics, and education; words of wisdom from some of the brightest out there.
 
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 , It's time to say farewell from Perspectives in Brief but hopefully say welcome on our blog Perspectives. We decided we would much rather speak with you than at you and social media and the two way conversations on our blog is a much better way to do that.
 
So to that end, we hope you'll continue the conversations on Perspectives and introduce us to the Human-Based Leaders(TM) in your lives. If you'd like to suggest an HB Leader for us to interview and highlight on our blog, we'd love to know.
 
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The year is coming to a close. , I don't know about you, but I am continually looking back at what worked for me this past year and what didn't and what I need to change to continue to simplify my life. So to that end, I share some tips to help create a great 2011.
1. Stop and think before saying yes. Before diving in I now ask myself Will I learn from this? Will I be supporting someone else in their learning without taking on the responsibility for whatever 'it' is? Will 'it' make a difference? Or, in other words, is it time well spent or a waste of time? Bottom line is, time is all we've got.
2. Eliminate delay. This continues to be my motto...how do I have to live my life so I don't throw away time which is a very precious commodity? I want to be a responder not a reactor and I don't want a list the length of my arm of shoulds, have-tos and haven't gotten tos yet. Do you?
3. Don't lose relationships because of busy-ness, thinking posting through social media is a replacement for one-on-one relationships or being so over extended there's no space for the people in your life.I don't want to have so much on the go that I sacrifice my relationships with the special people in my life. In other words, my reality check question is What do you have to let go of? 
4. Sensitize yourself...be aware of everything around you and how you process it all. Pay attention to the world around you. Pay attention to your intuition. Pay attention to people. Ask them about their stories. Be mindful. You will learn more from paying attention than anything else.
5. Attitude is contagious. You can choose what you want that to be. The same goes for how much you respect yourself. Coming full circle to #1, if you say yes to everything because you don't set your boundaries, you are, in effect, letting others determine your choices in life. I don't know about you but I value my life way too much to let that happen. , what about you?
Warmest wishes for you and yours for a wonderful holiday season and happy New Year. May 2011 be great!



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, it's not that the way we're working isn't working, it's how we're thinking about the work we have to be doing isn't working. Let's dispel some myths, shall we?
Myth: Social media is what the younger generation is doing so we don't really need to learn how to use it.

 
Truth: Social media is here to stay, and alive, well and very active in the corporate and government worlds. So pay attention to it and work with it, don't fight it.
Myth: Things will eventually get back to normal and then we'll be able to move forward on ---- (whatever you've stopped yourself from diving into)
 
Truth: Things are what they are and whether or not you're OK is how you look at the world and your place within it. We will never be what we were. We WILL be what we'll create.
Myth: As a leader you have to know everything there is to know about your line of business.

 
Truth: To lead, you have to know your people, who they know, what they know, and how they think. If you connect with them based on what they bring to the table, and ensure you have the right people in the right places, very little will stop you...all of you.

Myth: You have to react at the speed of light to deal with chaos and hope all will turn out in the best possible way.

 
Truth: You have to learn to embrace chaos, love it, be energized by it so you respond in real time and don't react and then fix later.
Myth: As a leader you have to have meetings often enough to be able to stay on top of what's happening in your organization and be in the know.

 
Truth: (to quote John le Carré) A desk is a dangerous place from which to view the world.  Get out into the world. Speak to people inside and outside your organization. Speak to people at all levels of the organization. Speak to people, period...about work and life. Once you know your people then you'll know what you need to stay on top of and what you can trust them to do. It'll show you just how far you can all go, together.
And lastly...

 
Myth: You need to get everyone on board so they support you.

 
Truth: You need to earn the trust and respect of those around you so even if they don't agree, they trust enough in your leadership to support you and be led by you. Being a leader means making some tough decisions.


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Sometimes, when people don't fit into an existing mold, it's because they belong to something larger than the present....something they will never find because they will someday build it for themselves and others.

 
That was a quote I picked up some time ago. It remained with me because it so perfectly describes who I am....different. It also describes so many of the people I work with. 

 
Some people consider being different a bad thing, and try to hide their uniqueness to blend in. Some celebrate being different. Which category are you in? Who has ever become famous or world renowned for being the same? 
 
The thing is, it's not so much as looking at yourself as different; it's when being different no longer matters. There's a joy, an energy in thinking outside the box. In my books, 'different' is the only place to be. We can either be one of many, a cog in a wheel or one who stands out from the crowd and leads it.

 
I never know what the next day will bring. I do know in some way it'll bring me a challenge I'm equal to, great learning, interaction with wonderful people and new experiences. This is what strengthens us for our future. 

 
, what does different look like for you and what will you build that is larger than the present? No ceiling. Just sky. 
 

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Picture trust as a building. How long did it take you to build it? How strong is it? And what did you need to build it?
What would be the purpose for building it? Did you use strong materials so it would withstand abuse?
No matter how strong you build it, can it stand the test of life?
And no matter how strong you build it, how easily can it be demolished?
Trust is shattered, not broken.  Even the smallest, subtlest remarks can do harm. There are what I call the four 'C's, four things we do every day that wears away at the foundation of trust. They are: Comparing, Complaining, Criticising and Competing. 
Comparing is subtle. Putting others down so you look more powerful or needing to feel superior, come out on top.What is more powerful? Negating someone else's talents, or showing how their strengths mesh with yours, creating a stronger force, rather than a segmented weaker one?
Complaining places blame on someone else. "She's never around when I need her". "He never meets deadlines". "I'm not sure what my boss wants and he's never clear on instructions". It's a systematic breakdown of trust. Would you trust someone with a tight deadline or support if all you heard about that person were complaints? Could that person be reliable?
Criticism is way up there when it comes to breaking down morale and team cohesiveness. It's bad enough when the person is in the room and you knock them down. Even more damaging is criticizing them when they're not there and can't respond to the comments or show their value.
Last but not at all least is Competing. Healthy competition is a good thing and keeps everyone on their toes, but when it's a rule of thumb and an organization promotes competition at every turn, the other three C's come to play in a very destructive manner. People become secretive about what they're doing. Collaboration goes down the tubes as the culture becomes one of 'every man and woman for themselves'.
What exactly are these saboteurs afraid of? Strong cohesive teams have more power than individuals working in secrecy. To use an analogy, pointed out by Vista M. Kelly, "Snowflakes are one of nature's most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together."
Be mindful. The moment you find yourself in the world of one of the four 'C's find a way to stop them and turn things around.  
What resonates best, watching your back or knowing without a doubt those around you are watching it for you? Do you want to live in a world of 'every person for themselves' or create a leadership code to live by authentically? 
Something to think about. 
 

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A few years ago I wrote a column about dealing with a critic, bully or control freak. It is the article that gets the most web hits of any article I've ever written.
I could ask the rhetorical question Why? although the answer is clear. People are being bullied now more than ever especially with the advent of the internet. People are being bullied and criticized publicly and they're not even sure who some of these people are. 
Kids are really being hit and at all ages. Adults are being bullied by staff, superiors and by their spouses. Human beings are protective beings and when fear kicks in we'll either fight or run.  Most run and hide away and then the bullying escalates because the bully knows he or she can get the response they crave.
First is to be clear about the characteristics of a bully so you can be prepared and do something about it.
1. Bullies are inconsistent with their behaviour. They can be sugar sweet to one person who they want to impress and down right mean to someone who they consider beneath them or of no use to them other than to 'serve'.
2. They want to own you. They're posessive of your time and attention and love to make you feel guitly when your entire focus is not on them. They're martyrs and 'give you permission' to see other people but will make you feel as guilty as they can if you do. Or if you leave work on time you'll get a lot of That's OK. I'll stay late. You go right ahead and don't worry about me, Then you're toast and won't hear the end of it. More than that, they'll find a way to make you pay for it.
3. They have something to hide. They want to know everything about you, where you're going, what you're doing and all the rest but are very secretive about their worlds. Most of the time they're hiding something they're ashamed about.
4. They're always angry...angry about their boss, spouse, sibling, parent. They share it and often.
5. They take what you say and use it against you, twisting your words to create a different meaning. Then you're so focused on explaining and clarifying that they've got you. You think there's a misunderstanding and they love the confusion.
 6. It's your fault. Always your fault even when it isn't. They blame you for a missed opportunity, for lack of attention, for the fact the dog ate something he shouldn't have, for the misery you're living. 
7. Nothing you do is good enough. They're perfect or at the very least a perfectionist. No one can ever live up to their expectations. Because they're a perfectionist and nothing is ever good enough you certainly can't be doing great work as that would make you better than they are...at least in their perspective. So you become a target...you're picked on...consistently. They're going to take you down a rung or two. And they're going to pick on your most apparent weaknesses whether skills related, emotionally...whatever they can identify they're going to pick on and often. They're going to do this to the nth degree.
8. They don't have to live by the same rules as you do. If you challenge them they'll attack. Most of the time their victims will run for cover. 
Thing is, if you challenge them again but this time have an audience or allies, they will be disempowered and their bullying house of cards will all come toppling down. Oh there are many more signals but you get the drift. Go with your gut. If something is telling you to give this person a wide berth then you know you're dealing with a bully or a potential bully.
If you know a child or teen dealing with this, help them get a support system together and now, not later. They should walk in pairs at the very least. Threes or fours even better. They should tell someone in a position of leadership at school, their teacher, guidance counsellor and their parents. Tell a cop. Anyone and everyone they can in a position of authority.Tell them to tell as many people as they can so the bully is in the spotlight not the victim. Running feeds the beast.
If you're being bullied in the workplace, speak to staff relations. Leadership. Anyone you can who will support you and not try to sweep this under the rug. If you're in an organization that doesn't support staff in situations like this, LEAVE. Find another job and do an exit interview. An honest one.
If you're in a relationship with a bully and want to stay in the relationship for whatever reason, get help with that person. Without that person. At the very least you'll have a supportive professional who will help you get your head back on straight as bullies will make you question your name not to mention everything you say and do. The question on the table is, is it worth being in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you? What does that say about how you respect yourself?
According to a U.S. 2004 poll of children, 86% of more than 1,200 9- to 13-year-old boys and girls polled said they've seen someone else being bullied, 48% said they've been bullied, and 42% admitted to bullying other kids at least once in a while.
This is serious. In the US, every day an estimated 160,000 kids nationwide stay home from school because they are afraid of being bullied.
In addition, researchers at the Yale School of Medicine, in a new review of studies from 13 countries, have found signs of an apparent connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide. Almost all found connections between being bullied and suicidal thoughts among children. Five reported that bullying victims were two to nine times more likely to report suicidal thoughts than were other children. 
The reason why I'm writing this is there's a need to be reminded that there is nothing acceptable about bullying or doing nothing when someone comes to you for help. High level executives come to me to help them deal with bullying. They're sharing stories of their kids being bullied and beaten up and they don't know how to handle it. If you turn to me and say I don't know anyone personally who is being bullied I can tell you that you're making an assumption because many adults feel ashamed to admit they allow someone to bully them and at their age. So watch carefully. If you see telltale signs of change in a friend's, colleague's or family member's disposition, talk to them and support them in getting help.
 

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Good intentions really aren't good enough.
 
Yes, you mean well and you try your best, follow directions to a T and still you don't feel as if you've succeeded in your deliverables.  Why?  Because when you follow instructions to a T, and don't add something of you, your insights, creativity and ideas of how to do this project or task better, you're in essence, making yourself into a robot.  
Everyone has good intentions when they take on a project.  Why is it then so many projects fall apart?  Or if they're completed, they're not earth shattering or even memorable? It's not about talent. It's about changing how you operate from  a perspective of fear and fitting in, and doing what you're told to do to one of choice, mastery and professionalism.
, stop following someone else's steps and start doing what makes a difference, what would be earth rocking to others...that change people and the unacceptable status quo. 
As a Coach I don't celebrate what my clients say they're going to do; I celebrate what they're doing. The 'going to do' conversations often stay in the 'one day' category and you know what happens with many of those promises we make to ourselves.  The diving in and doing is what we celebrate as they're not only testing the waters, they're diving in with both feet no matter what the temperature is.
, you can be one of the masses and still stand out. You don't necessarily have to change your job, you have to change how it is you approach your job, how you think about it, approach it and execute what you have to do.  If you do, you will achieve your level of excellence. That's a great time to then decide whether or not to move on.
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One of my favourite people, Sam Horn, sent me a piece about an experience she had at a neighbourhood pool this summer.  As Sam is wont to do, she observed the people around her and shared some of the magic of what she experienced.
Her basic questions were What are your defaults? What do you automatically do without thinking? Are those behaviours serving you or sabotaging you? Could you decide to do something differently today that could reap a lifetime of fond memories - a life of results vs. regrets?
In our busy worlds we tend to try to fit in time with our friends and our social circles when we might have a space in the midst of chaos.  When we get together we have a great time, lament about how busy everyone is and how we would love to see each other more often. Then do nothing to make that happen!
To give you a personal example, a group of us used to meet once in a while at a neighbourhood Chinese restaurant.  We loved getting together there as it was easy, casual and they have round tables so we could all see each other and really have a table-wide conversation, not to mention the food being amazing as well.
 
We'd try to coordinate as often as we could but with many of our travel schedules and crazy work hours it was difficult.  One evening when we were complaining that it wasn't happening often enough we decided to book one night a week when we'd have the best chance of being in town and getting together.  So Thursday night became the NHS night.  That way we book around Chinese food night at Hong Shing and not have to fit our 'lives' or play time somewhere in the middle of chaos. This way we know it'll happen.
Yeah, so sometimes it turns out to be a Wednesday night Thursday or a Friday or Saturday night Thursday night but all in all, all it takes is a quick message asking Tonight 6:30 NHS? and in seconds we all weigh in.  It's perfect.  The conversations percolate, the food is amazing, the owners have now adopted us as one of their own, and even join into the conversation when they can. All in all, it's become an evening to treasure.
So , what's your default? What has felt so good when it happened that you can indulge yourself and make it a constant joy in an ever changing crazy world?  Dinner one night with family?  Chinese with friends?  Movie night once a month with the guys or girls or pot luck every couple of months? And at work, lunch once every couple of weeks with those you want to strengthen, maintain, start a collaborative and supportive relationship with? You know if you don't book it, it's not going to happen as everything else gets in the way (if you let it).
 
Choosing a new default over what's been automatic for a long time can  positively impact your world for a long time to come.


 

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Effective listening is an essential competency for anyone who wishes to be a leader. They need to understand how to motivate and empower others. Active, clarifying listening skills is important when people need direction or advice and prevents us giving premature solutions without having all the facts, thereby very often magnifying the problem rather than solving it. As well, it helps us to avoid misunderstandings coming from wrong interpretations of what is being said. Listening effectively also helps us control feelings and emotions that may be triggered the moment we feel blame comes into play.
Effective and active listening helps one to avoid conflict, obtain knowledge we didn't have before, capture ideas and expand on them with another individual and recognise others for valuable input and contributions to an organisation's success.
When we don't listen to others....hear where they're coming from, we in effect show them they have no value whatsoever. These people are not leaders. They are dictators.
Those who don't listen usually feel they already know what they're going to hear (clairvoyants?) or seek confirmation not information (their way is the only way so why waste time and hear another point of view?).
, be honest with yourself....do any of these ring true? And if you don't want to be honest with yourself, (that would be seeking confirmation of what you want to hear not information), ask those around you what they think.


You Compare - You don't listen because you're already wondering who is better. (One upmanship)
You read minds - You already know what they're going to say and are trying to figure out what's behind it (feelings, emotions, water cooler talk etc).
You're Rehearsing - After the first two words you're already figuring out your response (without really hearing what you'll be responding to. A great way to start conflict)
You Filter - You hear what you want to hear and filter out the rest.
You Judge - They're not worthy of your attention, so why waste time listening?
You Daydream - You listen to a fraction of what's said. You're thinking about your last meeting or date.
You Identify - Everything they tell brings to mind something that happened to you, but it was MUCH better or worse or faster or ......and jump in with your story right away. Their experience doesn't count.
You give advice - Miss or Mister Fix-it. After three words you can solve the problems of the world. Oh...there wasn't a problem? (Now there is!)
You Argue - You love debate. It's been too long...so instead of hearing the other person, you're going to look for something to argue about (mentally rubbing your hands together with glee just looking for that first target.....)
Stop!
 are you ready to accept that you don't know everything? Everyone who walks by you, who works and lives with you knows something about life that you don't. Leaders acknowledge this and look to expand their realm of knowledge every minute of every day while strengthening skills and talents at the same time.
A Few Guidelines:


Listen for ideas, not only facts and ask yourself and the other person what they mean. What it means to you can have an entirely different meaning to someone else. This is how ideas are born.
Judge what they say not how they say it. Keep your emotions out of it.
Listen for value. It's in there somewhere.
Don't judge and jump to conclusions without all the facts.
Be flexible. How a person communicates isn't necessarily the same as you. And if you don't understand the point, take notes to ask the speaker later.
Concentrate. Keep eye contact. If you start daydreaming you're just going to have to ask them for the same information again and there's no easy way to do that without showing them you've ignored them the first time around.
Listen at the Speaker's pace. If you forge ahead, you're going to lose what HE'S saying.
Open your mind to the possibility that you don't know it all! There might be something new for you to grasp.
React to what the speaker is saying. Nod, use body language that shows you're listening. Keep eye contact, use language that invites more, and ask for clarification if you don't understand where this is going.
Listen for the other person's point of view.
Lastly, be patient.
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. - Karl A. Menninger 

 

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Donna Karlin
Founder and Principal
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