Tip #25 - Ten minutes can change it all.. and a free program to help you do it!
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Tip #25 - Ten minutes can change everythin
Good morning, .
Ten minutes can change it all in your relationship with your teen. Ten good minutes, that is.
I leave for school before 7:00 AM and often see kids waiting for the bus. Last week I saw a father waiting with his son. Refreshing, I thought... until I saw that he was texting. A wasted opportunity is what it was.
If you are fortunate enough to have ten quiet minutes alone with your teen, take them, and be fully present. Share something personal or about your work. Give him encouragement for the day ahead. Really notice the details of your surroundings. Ask him questions that show you're interested in him (not to interrogate him, but to be curious about him and what he thinks). Discuss world news. Talk, or don't talk. Just don't act like he's not there.
Too much time goes by when we don't give true attention to the people we love. Find ten minutes that are off-limits to your responsibilities and spend them with your child.
Too often it feels as if you're talking at your teen. It's like talking to the wall (only the wall doesn't talk back). You already know that's not the way to nurture a close relationship. So what is?
You can have that closeness back, but maybe you just need a little boost to get it started. From Eye-Rolling to 'I love you' gives you the tools and words you need to transform your relationship with your teen. Here's what you'll learn at this FREE TELECLASS:
√ The 'fixer' in you is your fear talking. You'll learn how to quiet the 'fixer voice' in your head when you're talking to your child (because when it speaks, your child runs in the other direction).
√ Just listening, with a few carefully chosen responses, will keep them talking. (You'll get the exact wording that works!)
√You're not going to be their best friend and experience everything with them. What you do want is for them to trust you, to confide in you more. You need to be the calm one, who can help them sort through what's bothering them. We'll figure out what triggers you and quiet that voice, too, so you can be the calm guide in the midst of their confusion.
How important is it to you to change this relationship and have your teen turning toward you instead of away from you?
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