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Good morning, .
Last week I proofread my tip for you, sent it, and WHAM! Right there, on the first line, highlighted in a lovely shade of blue was a typo. I would have laughed if I hadn't been so annoyed at myself. The error was "everythin" (shades of Ricky Ricardo there).
Ugh! How could I have missed that, and in plain sight? I spent a few unproductive minutes lamenting how bad it made me look. Off I went, criticizing myself for not being perfect. On the upside, it gave me inspiration for my next tip!
That need for perfection is crippling, no matter to whom you apply it: you, your spouse, child, friend, or co-worker. It's one thing to strive to do better (productive). It's another thing to be dissatisfied with anything less than perfect (destructive). Self-esteem takes a big hit when perfection is your standard.
Pay attention when you find yourself bowing to the god of perfection. Acknowledge your ability to self-correct, learn and bounce back. Raise expectations without tearing yourself down. And do the same for those you love.
Best always,
Fern
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√ You're not going to be their best friend and experience everything with them. What you do want is for them to trust you, to confide in you more. You need to be the calm one, who can help them sort through what's bothering them. We'll figure out what triggers you and quiet that voice, too, so you can be the calm guide in the midst of their confusion.
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