[X&Y Emily] The "Big Four" Traits That Attract Great Men
Published: Thu, 03/08/12
EMILY McKAY'S KEYS TO BLISS NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: What are the "Big Four" traits that the good men
out there look for in a woman?====
THE "BIG FOUR" TRAITS THAT ATTRACT GREAT MEN
[NOTE: Scot wrote the following to his guys a while back, and I
thought it was SO RIGHT ON that I wanted to share it with you also.]
A few days ago I was on a coaching call with a guy when an
interesting question came up.
Is there a women's equivalent of the "Big Four"?
In other words, just like the "Big Four" traits in a man represent
what high quality women desire most in a man, are there also four
distinct traits in women that really cause the HIGHEST QUALITY
examples of us guys to recognize greatness in them?
The answer was actually relatively easy to come up with.
Not only is that answer a resounding "yes", there's a surprising
twist: It's actually the SAME LIST...only the female equivalent, of
course.
That's right. We as human beings, male or female, tend to want
something similar from our relationships with MOTOS (members of the
opposite sex).
As such, the "Big Four" are NOT gender specific, save for the
obvious and highly necessary substitution necessary to ensure
proper sexual polarity.
Let me show you exactly what I mean:
1) Confidence
You've heard that "confidence is sexy" a hundred times. And every
time you've heard it, there's been no elaboration as to whether
that fact applies to men or to women in particular.
That's because it indeed applies to everyone.
There's nothing worse than a woman who doesn't believe she's
competent (except, of course, a man who doesn't). When she second
guesses herself or shies away from social situations it's a turn
off.
When she's sheepish around you in public you wonder not only who she
really is under there, but also what she's going to be like in
private (i.e. behind closed doors).
You betcha. We as guys love women who know they've "got it" and
carry themselves accordingly.
2) Femininity
Feminine women want a masculine man. And yes, you as a masculine
man want a feminine woman.
So it makes perfect sense that the "sexual polarity" factor is
equally important in the women's version of the "Big Four" as it is
in the men's version.
Of course you want her to visually appear as if she's 100% woman,
by your very definition of the word. Beautiful, radiant, even
stunning.
But you also want that joyful energy, that sweet heart and that
supportive spirit.
Somehow, the qualities that make her potentially a great mother
turn you on, also. When was the last time you heard an attractive
woman singing a lullaby? Admit it...you stopped in your tracks as if
the Sirens themselves had begun to join together in chorus.
Hard-edged resolve doesn't cut it. Neither does corporate
ambition...at least as far as SEXUAL ATTRACTION is concerned.
Likewise, the word "butch" is quite possibly the biggest attraction
killer known to man as far as you're concerned.
Manicures, sundresses and hair that smells great are what do it for
you. And that's no coincidence...it's nature.
3) Ability To Inspire Confidence
I hear someone already, "What is this, McKay, some sort of joke? I
don't need some woman to make me feel safe and secure."
The heck you don't.
Don't get me wrong; this isn't about a woman acting as your
"protector", per se. You indeed probably don't need that.
But I'm pretty sure that among your biggest, gnarliest nightmares
when it comes to relationships are that she's going to either
humiliate you in public, second guess your dreams and/or fail to
stand beside you when the chips are down.
We as guys don't want to even think of our woman ever letting us
down. We want to believe in her like she hopefully believes in us.
Any other state of affairs leaves us flat-out unfulfilled.
4) Character
OK...you've got me here.
Perhaps an even bigger, gnarlier nightmare is getting involved in a
long-term relationship with a woman only to wake up a few years (or
even months) later with someone COMPLETELY different next to you in
bed.
Maybe it was a ruse all along, or maybe she changed.
Whatever.
When she switches religions, attitudes or even (...ahem) sex partners
on you; you'll know more than ever how important bringing a woman
of strong, upstanding character into your life really is. And that
goes double if she can't seem to tell you the truth about anything
or follow through with what she says she's going to do.
There you go. It's a pretty convincing list, after all, isn't it
though?
Truth be told, I definitely still advocate, as always, putting
together your own version of "The Spreadsheet" detailing the top
ten traits in a woman you can't live without. That list needs to
include your own subjective criteria based solely on personal taste.
But ultimately, just about anything on that list really is going to
fall under one of the "Big Four". Go ahead and put your own list
to the test, and let me know what you come up with.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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Emily McKay
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