I have learned to fight back. I go searching for a good song to share on Facebook. I try to find positive quotes to copy and paste to my computer desk.
Then I go to my "Happy Place."
Sorry, I can't take you there. You need to create one for yourself.
It works. Like a life preserver when you are going under for the last time. Like an antidepressant without the side effects.
Promise me that you will create one, too. Right now after reading this message. It will be fun, I promise.
I will also feel better knowing you have a place to go when you need it.
Love always and all ways...
Perks Pearl of Wisdom
"There is a place inside of you that may be empty just waiting for you to fill it. All it needs is a little love, a little hope, and a little imagination. It is the spark that ignites the dream. It is the ember that glows to light the way. It is the lost and found for when you forget how to get back to where you really want to be."
"Gone to my Happy Place" By Bob Perks
When you hurt your hand your whole arm aches.
When you break your toe your other leg hurts because you need to walk a little differently.
Everything is off balance, out of place, so it impacts everything else.
When you have a headache you see things differently because you
squint to block out the light.
When things go wrong you sometimes treat people like it's their fault so you redirect the pain.
Sometimes when you are struggling you feel like you are smothered even though the air is fresh and light.
Sometimes. Often. Too often.
You really need to force yourself to turn everything around.
You try searching. You read. You listen.
Still, what you search for you can't find. What you read is bad news. What you hear is depressing.
What do you do?
May I suggest something?
It's what I do now. It's what I must do because there are times when I feel smothered in sadness and self pity.
But I don't give in. Well, I do for awhile and it hurts.
I don't give up. I've wanted to. I have.
Ask yourself these questions:
What makes you happy?
What things bring a smile to your face?
Who brings you joy?
What sights and sounds relax you?
What old familiar smell or scent brings you fond memories?
Now gather these things and put them somewhere and declare that your space. Your "Happy Place."
The corner of a room, a closet, the basement, the attic, outside under a tree, sitting in your car, or in the bath tub full or empty, just to name a few possibilities.
Consider the right kind of music or maybe complete silence.
Whenever you are overwhelmed, down, depressed or simply need a break, go to that place and get in touch with all your elements of happiness that will help you break free.
Create your place at work, too. Gather pictures, trinkets, music on your iPod, snacks, scented lotions that will trigger positive feelings.
Whatever you do, don't climb down that slippery slope of feeding the ugliness of your downside. Don't listen to the sad songs.
Don't read the newspaper reports of the latest murder or poor economic news.
Stay away from people who live their lives in the darkness of negativity. Find a friend or several who always make you happy and call them just to hear their voices.
Create the place that's uniquely yours and recreate it when you are tempted to buy into the pain and suffering that life throws at you.
It's a place to run to. A place you can even see with your eyes closed when you can't get away.
Put it in a small box in the top drawer of your desk at work.
Put it in a bag in the corner of your room or under your bed.
It's your place that no one needs to know about. A place that no one would understand but you.
Your happy place is whatever you want it to be.
I suggest that you include prayer. A simple conversation with God will help you. You don't have to call him. He'll already be there waiting for you.
It's His Happy Place, too.
Now, don't smile and nod in agreement and move onto the next email. Take pen and paper and make that list now.
Here's a song by Andrea Bocelli that you can listen to while you plan your "Happy Place"