http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletternewsletterThu, 29 Dec 2011 11:52:24 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/LKxGc/h/I_Am_Paying_It_Forward_.htm Dear I know you have gotten hundreds of newsletters telling you about creating your NEW YEAR'S resolutions. I know you have gotten thousands of newsletters telling you about new programs, new workshops, new products. NOT from me...... Today I am paying it forward with a gift, the gift of knowledge. The way I usually acquire my knowledge is by conversation, communication and reading great books. There are very few books that I can say have taught me new wisdom and even fewer books that have changed the way I live my life. These kind of great books are rare. Honestly they come around once or twice a decade. But this past year I read Frank Sonnenberg's book Managing with a Conscience: How to Improve Performance Through Integrity, Trust, and Commitment (2nd ed.) ..... and my heart soared. It speaks of the principles of LEAD FROM WITHIN with a conscience. If you have not read it please go and buy the book...make it a gift for yourself. if you are looking for 2012 to be different, better, brighter and BIGGER than this book is what you need to propel that change. Here is an interview I had with Frank that will give you some insight on why I admire Frank as a person and why his book is a great read! [DISCLAIMER: I am not retained by Frank Sonnenberg or receiving any compensation for recommending this book.] LOLLY: Why is the management approach discussed in your book so vital today? FRANK: In the dog-eat-dog times of the past few decades, many believed that the only way to achieve success was to be unscrupulous. Acting like slumlords, corporations let their assets deteriorate by exploiting customers, mistreating employees, and squeezing suppliers. What they overlooked, however, was that their obsession with short-term results significantly damaged their company's long-term performance as well as its competitiveness. Today, it is more critical than ever to put an end to these shortsighted tactics. LOLLY: What's the premise of Managing with a Conscience (2nd ed.)? FRANK: In the twentieth century, a company measured success by the number of tangible assets (such as property, plant, and equipment) it posted on its balance sheet. In the Information Age, however, intangible assets such as trust, creativity, speed, relationships, reputation, loyalty, employee commitment, and the ability to adapt to change determine success. Just as you cannot measure liquids in pounds or nuclear fusion in quarts, you cannot use yesterday's measurements of success to gauge the importance of these soft intangible assets. There is a tendency, however, for managers to believe that if something cannot be quantified, it does not exist. Are they saying that these soft intangible assets are not effective management practices and that they do not enhance results? Or are they saying that because these things are difficult to quantify and measure, they make management uncomfortable and uneasy? It brings to mind the age-old question, If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is there to hear it, did it make a sound? These soft issues are all very much like the tree in the forest. The bottom line . . . If we don't believe that there was a sound, maybe it's time to get our hearing checked. LOLLY: How does this approach apply to leadership? FRANK: It's time for a new style of leadership. You call it leadfromwithin or heart-based leadership. The truth is, employees do not respond well to micromanagement or to being treated like cogs in a wheel. In order to increase workforce productivity, management has learned various theories, techniques, and approaches that are believed to motivate employees. But they are all based on the fundamental premise that it's management's role to do the motivating--it's up to management to push employees toward certain behaviors or to control them in a certain way. Management can reward employees by giving them a promotion, a raise, or a pat on the back; they can reprimand, discipline, or fire them; they can create rules and procedures that give selected individuals the authority to make decisions over a minimum threshold. Or, managers who lead from within can earn the respect of their colleagues through their expertise, their personal integrity, and their ability to foster trust. While reward, punishment, and authority come with an individual's position, the most effective forms of management--respect, expertise, and trust--reside in the person and are earned over time. LOLLY: How do employees' needs fit into the big picture? FRANK: For today's employee, being part of something special and making a difference in the world is much more important than the rewards sought by yesterday's me generation. Today's employee wants to work for an organization that they can feel proud of: an organization that has values and viewpoints compatible with their own; an organization that is oriented toward the long haul, working toward the prevention of ills, not just curing the symptoms; an organization that cares about morals and ethics, doing what is in the best interests of its customers; and an organization that cares about the impact it has on the environment. Employees want this because they recognize that such an organization will also care about them. LOLLY: Can you provide me with concrete examples of how managing with a conscience works in the real world? FRANK: Sure. Organizations succeed because of the efforts of many, not the strengths of a few. In the past, senior management made decisions and employees implemented them. In a world of rapid change, large bureaucracies with multiple levels of approval delay the rapid response that's needed to succeed in an ever-changing world. The only thing to fear is fear itself. Just as pollution damages the environment, an air of fear is toxic to companies. When people believe they lack control over what happens to them, they become fearful. And whether their fears are real or imagined, the results are the same: inaction, withdrawal, hiding mistakes, misrepresenting facts, or procrastination. There's a direct correlation between integrity and bottom-line performance. All too many people lose sleep because of unfocused anxiety. They are worried about their future. They don't know if this is the last round of layoffs, whether their suppliers will make good on their promises, or if their customers will continue coming back. We no longer trust people to tell us the truth, to do what's right rather than what's politically expedient, to live up to their commitments, or to care about living up to a code of honor. In business, the new bottom line means that you don't jump down peoples' throats when they make mistakes; you make it clear that you know they're trying their best--and they will respond in kind. It also means that you don't hire bodies--you seek valued employees to join your business family. You invest in your people. You are not out to sell to your customers, but to serve them now and in the future. Your responsibilities go beyond the next quarter's financials to build a legacy for those who follow. LOLLY: Are you currently doing any other writing? FRANK: I launched a new BLOG a little over year ago: My mission is to spur conversation about the urgent need to reawaken personal values and personal responsibility. Thanks, Frank. Frank Sonnenberg has published four books and over three hundred articles. In 2011, Social Media Marketing Magazine (SMM) selected Sonnenberg as one of the top marketing authors in the world on Twitter (@FSonnenberg, @A_Conscience). Last year Trust Across America named him one of Americaâ€(TM)s Top 100 Thought Leaders in Trustworthy Business Behavior. Industry Week named the first edition of his book, Managing with a Conscience, one of the Top 10 Business Books of the Year. The second edition of Managing with a Conscience: How to Improve Performance Through Integrity, Trust, and Commitment (http://amzn.to/tjcVVS) was released last month. I hope you enjoyed the interview. If this interview or the book has impacted the way it has impacted me, please PAY IT FORWARD - Give a gift of knowledge to someone you love-someone you care about. Happy NEW YEAR. Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Where Am I? Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging conversation. This week: #leadfromwithin one year anniversary: Topic Celebration Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Thu, 29 Dec 2011 11:52:24 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/9xwyM/h/The_Seven_Stages_Of_Our.htm Dear Yesterday I posted Look In The Mirror it talks about the importance of knowing yourself before you can lead others. (keep reading) Today I want to dive deeper. I want to explore and share with you seven stages of our personal identity and motivation. These stages can help us identity who we are and what we stand for. Without a sense of our own identity we are lost. We do not know where we belong. When we say I am this. or I am that we are indicating to ourselves and others the affiliations or association that are important to us. We are also telling people indirectly who or what we care about. But what happens when we are feeling lost and stuck. The following seven stages can help us identify our identity so when we look in the mirror we can define ourselves....... Seven Stages of Personal Identity and Motivation: Survival- is about satisfying our physiological needs and creating a safe and secure environment for ourselves to grow. - by Surviving- we stay alive and we find comfort in our lives. Relationships- is about satisfying our need for belonging and being loved and accepting those we interact on a daily basis- by relationships we are Conforming- staying safe and loyal to the people in our lives. Self esteem- is about satisfying our need to feel good about ourselves, its about managing our lives and to have pride in our performances- by self esteem- we begin to separate ourselves from others. Transformation- is about becoming more of who you are and about uncovering our authentic self and aligning our mind heart and soul. by Transformation We are exploring who we are and what our talents are... as Carl Jung states you are individuating. Internal Connection- is about finding meaning to your life by aligning with your passion and purpose and creating a vision for the future- By Internal Connection we are self actualizing -we are aligning ourselves to fully be who we are meant to be. Making A Difference- is about actualizing our sense of purpose by cooperating with others for mutual benefit and fulfillment in our lives- by Making A Difference we are integrating and aligning ourselves with others who share the same purpose Service- is about devoting our life to self-less service in pursuit of our passion and purpose by Service we are fulfilling our destiny by giving back to the world. Our mission if we choose to accept it is.... to surrender to our heart. To master the seven stages and stay focused on our vision- mission and purpose. because if we do.....then and only then will we have the ability to respond to the challenges life brings us. Let's open the discussion...Lets become partners and support each other. What stage do you struggle with? What stage do you have questions about? What stage have you mastered? Can you help someone else master their personal evolution? Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Where Am I? Yours in Heart, Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging conversation. This week: Situational Awareness Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Join Us On Facebook: Want to connect with like minded peers? We would be honored if you would Join us on Facebook Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Mon, 28 Nov 2011 09:45:35 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/PBhQM/h/A_Recipe_of_Thanks.htm Dear At this time of year, it is important to reflect on that for which we are each thankful for and I want to take this opportunity to THANK YOU- for the joy and privilege of working with you and for your valued commitment you have towards your success. Please accept my best wishes to you and your loved ones for a happy and healthy Thanksgiving and enjoy the yummy sweet recipe below! Pear and Ginger Crisp Topping: Combine 1/2 cup oat flour 1/2 cup rolled oats 1 cup raw sugar 1/2 tsp salt in a medium bowl. Using a pastry blender, cut in 1/2 cup cold butter or margarine until mixture is crumbly, set aside. Filling: 3-31/2 lbs firm fresh pears about 8 1/2 cup golden raisins 2 tsp cinnamon 1/2 tsp nutmeg 1/4 cup lemon juice 1/4 cup water 1/4 cup diced candied ginger Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Spray large baking dish with cooking spray. Peel and core pears. Cut into quarters, then cut each piece in half the long way. Put pears and raisins in a bowl and toss with cinnamon and nutmeg. Turn fruit into baking dish and drizzle with lemon juice and water. Sprinkle with ginger followed by topping Bake 1 hour, until fruit is tender (but not mushy) and topping is golden brown. With sweet thanks, Lolly If you are looking for something to read I just posted my new blog: SEND LETTERS OF THANKS This week is Thanksgiving. Let's make the time to pause to self- reflect on how fortunate we are for all the things we have been given this past year. What if we took the time to send letters of thanks to the people we care about? Keep Reading..... Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Where Am I? Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging conversation. This week: Purpose Driven Leadership Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Join Us On Facebook: Want to connect with like minded peers? We would be honored if you would Join us on Facebook Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Mon, 21 Nov 2011 16:10:58 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/71K_s/h/Feeling_The_Warmth_Of_Love.htm Dear I would like to share with you a story and it comes from Joseph Campbell. (my mentor) It will give you insight to where love resides within us and what happens when it leaves. WHERE DID THE WARM THING GO? One evening, a long, long, long time ago, when humankind still carried its fire about with it for the long, dark nights of dancing and eating, someone died. The body lay there, and it did not move. Loved ones gathered around it as the darkness fell, wondering why it did not move. Someone from the tribe reached to touch it, and pulled back, in horror and amazement, for the body was cold. Other hands came close to touch, and continued to touch the entire surface of the body, especially the face, looking for the warmth and love which had once been there. Noses came close to smell, and others rubbed up against the cold body as if they could bring the warmth and the love back through their own warm bodies and loving touch. Yet no matter how intimate their attending, no matter how close their noticing, they could not find the warmth which had once been there. Where did the warm thing go? They puzzled and puzzled. The warm thing that had been there, where was it? After a long time, as the fires of the evening began to die, one of them began to imagine where the warm thing was. She imagined that the warm thing might have gone upward, toward the place where the sun was, for it liked warmth. She began to speak of the journey of the warm thing toward the sun. And as she told the story, another member of the tribe began to see in his mind's eye this warm thing that had been inside his brother. It seemed to him that it had flown up to this place in the sky easily, for as he touched his brother's dead body, he noticed how heavy it was. So the warm thing must have been the thing that made his brother's body light enough to run swiftly in the hunt, and to dance. It was the thing which animated his brother's body and made it beautiful to watch. He began to dance her words as they told the story of where the warm thing went. As they performed, all the members of the tribe remembered his face when it was alive and loving. And thus it was that as the story grew in the telling, the body of their member was ensouled. The story seeks to answer this question in its own way: Where did the warm thing go? Is the question of this cold, the dying time in which we are living now? If so, then we need to seek the warmth. We need give the love -because it ignites us. It keeps us alive! It takes the courage and the fearlessness of leaders to cultivate an environment, space and leadership that has warmth and love that all can see and feel and hear! Where has your warmth gone? Are you showing the LOVE within your organization? Today's Post: How Do I Love Thee...Let Me Count The Ways..... Leadership Style I love thee. These three words can change a person's life. Too often, we only consider love in the context of our closest or most intimate relationships. But what about our other connections? Imagine what the phrase can do for the people who you work with. Consider the following expressions of love and think about how you can put more love into all of your relationships... keep reading. Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Where Am I? Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging conversation. This week: Lead With Love Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Join Us On Facebook: Want to connect with like minded peers? We would be honored if you would Join us on Facebook Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Sun, 06 Nov 2011 11:55:53 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/MOpy6/h/It_Got_Me_Thinking_.htm Dear Today I posted a new blog post called "Leaders Versus Managers." You can read the difference between the two roles here: Keep reading As I re-read the post, it got me thinking... Does the distinction between "Leader" and "Manager" matter? Isn't the real concern our relationships with our followers and subordinates? Isn't it those personal relationships that truly matter? Don't we understand that... People matter Customers matter Culture matters Our Calling matters So if I think about it- the courageous question is really: Are we adding to or subtracting from these relationships? Shouldn't our goal as leaders or managers be about how far we advance others? Shouldn't we be showing others that they matter? But how? By serving others By honoring others By appreciating others By loving others By having an open heart By having an open mind By sharing compassion By acknowledging others When you know your purpose - when you can ask the courageous questions... That's when you know you are growing and reaching your maximum potential. That's when you are well on your way to inner mastery. Join us this week as @ValaAfshar co hosts on #leadfromwithin tweetchat our topic: Leadership vs Management Everyone is welcomed. Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging and courageous conversation. Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Join Us On Facebook: Want to connect with like minded peers? We would be honored if you would Join us on Facebook Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Where Am I? Sun, 23 Oct 2011 15:07:16 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/lollynewsletter/C2Nd6/h/Voicing_My_Values.htm Dear I have spent many hours taking a hard look at what is important to me, from this vantage point, I have found I can visualize what I am doing from day to day, week to week, month to moth year to year. It is the foundation to the kind of life I want to live. My values are my drivers- they let me know what is important. I have found unless I know what I stand for I will have very little control over my life. Today I am sharing my personal drivers - my values. After you are done reading.... Let me know what drives you...What values have you given voice to? I will be a person who lives by a code of behavior. To be truthful at all times; even when it hurts. I will be a person who thrives to be consistent. I will follow my principles at all times. Demonstrate consistency by my intentions, words, and behaviors I will be a person who lives by courtesy. I will be a person who serves and assists others. I will be a person who is passionate about challenges; I will constantly challenge myself to be better and do better. I will be a person who is driven by change. I will go beyond thinking the world can be better and I will start making the world better. As the saying goes, "be the change you want to see in the world." I will be a person who is credible. If I know who I am and what I stand for...it makes me more credible. I will be a person who strives to comprehend. I will constantly strive to understand, validate and acknowledge. I will be a person who gives charity. I will be the person who gives more than I take. I will be a person who bestows compassion. I will give of my time, wisdom and love in everything I encounter. I will be the person who knows caring counts. I will constantly and continuously be kind and always be ready to listen with tender loving care to those who need me. I cannot speak in someone else's voice. I have to speak in my own. I cannot ask someone else to choose my values for me. I have to choose them for myself. What does your voice of values echo to you? ****************************************************************************** My latest post: Voice Your Values As a leader you have a responsibility to be self-reflective and self-aware. Unless you know who you are and where you're going, the demands of your daily life will control you. If you want to take more control of your life, you must voice your values. Keep Reading ...... I hope you get the opportunity to read the post and forward to whomever you think might be interested. Where Am I? Every Tuesday at 8pm est. #LeadFromWithin Tweetchat Join us for engaging and courageous conversation. Looking For A Speaker? Lolly is a wonderful addition to any conference, meeting, or training. For more information please email leadwith@gmail.com Attention: Debbie Slater Join Us On Facebook: Want to connect with like minded peers? We would be honored if you would Join us on Facebook Share This Email: Know someone who would benefit from our blogs, articles and motivation? Subscribe or forward to someone who can benefit from our free content. Let Your Voice Be Heard Communicate and Connect with me. Yours in Heart, Lolly Daskal http://www.lollydaskal.com Lead From Within Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:41:26 -0400