http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-revSelf Esteem Review NewsletterTue, 14 Jul 2009 13:18:21 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/18tzw/h/Self_Esteem_Review_Do.htm__________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW Live you life in full 365 days a year - just try missing one... published by David Rogers http://confident1.com __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. In This Issue:- * Are Affirmations Useless? * Self Confidence Built into Genes? * Public Speaking Fear Conquered.. * Quotes of the Day * Share This Ezine __________________________________________________ Are Affirmations Useless?__________________________________________________ There has been some recent research into the use of affirmations, or positive self statements. This found that for people with low self esteem, repeating a statement like I'm a lovable person made them feel worse rather than better. Basically if they didn't believe the statement, then it reinforced the opposite - i.e. that they were unlovable! Sadly, reports on this research have come up with SELF HELP IS DEAD type headlines. In my post I discuss the findings, and agree that any simplistic positive statement by itself won't facilitate change. Affirmations can be useful, if used correctly. To read the full blog post and/or leave comments click here __________________________________________________ Public Speaking Fear Conquered.... Your Fearless Presenter within Unleashed__________________________________________________ I have just been reading a new ebook on Conquering Public Speaking by Ron Balagot. I've always been slightly hesitant reviewing books when I feel they cannot by definition do everything they promise in (usually) fairly hyped up sales pages. And in this case a quite sensational title! To become a good public speaker you need to get practice - public speaking. Joining an organisation like Toastmasters would help. But reading a book? Well, Ron's book has a lot to offer and he writes with both enthusiasm and authority. He is good at exploring the limiting beliefs that lead to our fears around public speaking. He leaves no one in any doubt that public speaking should not affect us with nerves in any way, and that its something we should learn to look forward to. Its hard to assess how easily you'd find his techniques to move forward, as I'm no longer petrified by public speaking. But I have an important talk to give next month and have taken on board some of his ideas with that in mind. Within the book you also get links to Ron's two earlier books for fr.ee, so with a 90 day money back guarantee, so I think its good purchase if public speaking represents a major challenge. To get more information click here __________________________________________________ Self Confidence Built into Genes? I don't agree__________________________________________________ The researchers have been hard at it, as my previous post also features the results of psychological research. I was far less happy with the findings though. Their comparisons of groups of identical and non-identical twins supposedly proves there is a genetic component to confidence. As the father of non-identical twins I take issue how they conducted the experiment and came to their conclusions. Apart from anything else it implies I was probably the carrier of the low confidence gene that I passed onto one of my daughters! But to me the professor behind the research shoots himself in the foot by trying to compare the relative confidence of British tennis players Tim Henman and Andy Murray. To suggest Tim Henman was born with a wonky confidence gene is laughable - or at least it would be if people didn't take such research seriously. To read the full blog post and/or leave comments click here _________________________________________________ Quotes of the Day _________________________________________________ When you focus on the positive aspects of a situation, there will be plenty of people who disagree with you. But that is their problem, not yours. - Ralph Marsten #~#~# Till next time, best wishes David ________________________________________________ Share This Ezine ________________________________________________ Please pass this newsletter to friends, relatives, colleagues, in its entirety. Are you reading this newsletter because a friend sent it to you? If this newsletter was forwarded to you, get it directly in future by sending a blank email to self-esteem-rev@aweber.com Or simply going to http://confident1.com ________________________________________________ Privacy Statement ________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. I do not (nor have I ever) rent, share, or sell the addresses of my e-mail newsletter subscribers, or web site visitors. I can't stand spam, and we will never send any or help those who do. Follow me on Twitter © Copyright 2009 David RogersTue, 14 Jul 2009 13:18:21 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/TznQ/h/Here_s_Your_Self_Esteem.htm__________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW Live you life in full 365 days a year - just try missing one... published by David Rogers http://confident1.com __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. In This Issue:- * Michael Jackson: the Curse of Talent? * Quotes of the Day * Share This Ezine __________________________________________________ Michael Jackson: the Curse of Talent? __________________________________________________ I started off my latest blog post with a discussion sparked by a statement I came across:- "Being confident is not always the same as being good at something" Which, of course, is true - although being aware of our talents and allowing them to help build our positive self image is good for self esteem. But talking of talent, I couldn't pass without mentioning Michael Jackson. This comment relates to an appearance he made on Oprah:- 1. This is the most talented person I've ever seen. 2. This person has the lowest self-esteem of anyone I've ever seen. To read the full blog post and/or leave comments CLICK HERE _________________________________________________ Quotes of the Day _________________________________________________ When we discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves ~ William Arthur Ward "If you cannot get a compliment any other way, pay yourself one." ~ Mark Twain "Self-confidence is knowing that we have the capacity to do something good and firmly decide not to give up." ~ The Dalai Lama #~#~# Till next time, best wishes David ________________________________________________ Share This Ezine ________________________________________________ Please pass this newsletter to friends, relatives, colleagues, in its entirety. Are you reading this newsletter because a friend sent it to you? 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Follow me on Twitter © Copyright 2009 David RogersMon, 29 Jun 2009 18:02:25 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/16R9R/h/Here_s_Your_Self_Esteem.htm__________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW Live you life in full 365 days a year - just try missing one... published by David Rogers http://confident1.com __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. In This Issue:- * 8 Toxic Personalities to Avoid * Do My Spots Look Good on This? * Quotes of the Day * Share This Ezine __________________________________________________ 8 Toxic Personalities to Avoid__________________________________________________ I've just come across a wonderful post about negative people - not just negative, but TOXIC! Its an often suggested tip for raising self esteem,but avoid negative people doesn't convey the damage that others can do to us - usually without their intending. But toxic people suck up our time and energy, drain our self esteem, and leave us with little room to look at our own needs, rather than theirs. As author Brett Blumenthal, in the Ghana News, says:- All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time. So if you want to learn whether you have a Manipulative Mary, Narcissistic Nellie, Insincere Illissas or other toxic folk in your circle, check out:- 8 Toxic Personalities to Avoid __________________________________________________ Do My Spots Look Good on This?__________________________________________________ On my latest blog post their is a photo of me and my eldest daughter Emma taken professionally for her Duke of Edinburgh Gold Award. What I don't say on the blog is I was offered the opportunity of having the photograph enhanced for an extra £10. They could have removed my spots and whitened our eyes and teeth!! Despite having already forked out a small fortune for the session we politely declined. The photo shows my miss matching suit (I seem to have expanded somewhat since I last wore it) and Emma's bad hair day - but that's what we look like! So many people strive to look like the celebrities and models on the covers of magazines - even though the photographs are often enhanced. In the post itself I report on an experiment at a British school that looked at the self esteem of a few pupils who had to go a few weeks without their bling - including make up. Learning to accept ourselves as we are, to love ourselves warts (and in my case spots) and all is part of developing and sustaining self esteem Check out the post - Step Outside Your Comfort Zone _________________________________________________ Quotes of the Day _________________________________________________ Avoid negative people at all costs. They are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self-esteem. ~ Brian Tracy I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure -- which is: Try to please everybody. ~ Herbert B. Swope #~#~# Till next time, best wishes David Please feedback - just hit reply! ________________________________________________ Share This Ezine ________________________________________________ Please pass this newsletter to friends, relatives, colleagues, in its entirety. Are you reading this newsletter because a friend sent it to you? If this newsletter was forwarded to you, get it directly in future by sending a blank email to self-esteem-rev@aweber.com Or simply going to http://confident1.com ________________________________________________ Privacy Statement ________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. I do not (nor have I ever) rent, share, or sell the addresses of my e-mail newsletter subscribers, or web site visitors. I can't stand spam, and we will never send any or help those who do. Follow me on Twitter © Copyright 2009 David RogersFri, 29 May 2009 18:22:16 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/1ifz7/h/Here_s_Your_Self_Esteem.htm__________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW Live life 365 days a year - just try missing one! published by David Rogers http://confident1.com __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. In This Issue:- * How to Stop Thinking Like a Victim * Procrastination * Quotes of the Day * Share This Ezine __________________________________________________ How to Stop Thinking Like a Victim __________________________________________________ I came across a blog post called 3 Steps to Health Self Esteem. Its good, worth reading, but doesn't come up with anything particularly new. It also has the sentence:- you have to do something well to feel good about yourself - which I don't agree with. However, looking around the blog author Ian Barrett has just come up with an excellent post which I think can be more useful as aself esteem builder. You may not see yourself as a victim, but some of the victim habits are easy to slip into for any of us. Victims fear change and tend to make excuses, blame others or circumstances, and tend to talk and think about their unhappiness - but seldom put anything into action to change things. At least with their unhappiness they retain some control. As Ian Barrett says, Victims believe the world revolves around them. He gives more depth to on what makes up victim behaviour, but I like his ideas on how to change. One idea is to Stop Making Excuses all the Time:- If you feel you are about to start moaning or complaining about something, change the subject and/or your thoughts straight away. Try the 20 Second Rule, where you focus completely on something positive for 20 seconds. So I recommend this brief, but informative blog post:- How to Stop Thinking Like a Victim __________________________________________________ Procrastination__________________________________________________ I wrote a blog post on procrastination about 11 months ago. Fear of failure and perfectionism, both of which can stem from low self esteem, are a couple of things that can lead to putting things off. But its worth highlighting that procrastination can simply be down to bad habits. That failure to get things done may feed into and exacerbate low self esteem rather than the other way round. This is very good blog post that compares two lifestyles. Decide which one is you, and do you want to change some of your habits? procrastination tip saved my life _________________________________________________ Quotes of the Day _________________________________________________ No one can make you feel inferior without your permission ~ Eleanor Roosevelt You can learn from people, and educate others, but the only one you can change is yourself. ~Dan D. Limon What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson #~#~# Till next time, best wishes David Please feedback - just hit reply! ________________________________________________ Share This Newsletter________________________________________________ Please pass this newsletter to friends, relatives, colleagues, in its entirety. Are you reading this newsletter because a friend sent it to you? If this newsletter was forwarded to you, get it directly in future by sending a blank email to self-esteem-rev@aweber.com Or simply going to http://confident1.com ________________________________________________ Privacy Statement ________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. I do not (nor have I ever) rent, share, or sell the addresses of my e-mail newsletter subscribers, or web site visitors. I can't stand spam, and we will never send any or help those who do. Follow me on Twitter http://Twitter.com/David365 © Copyright 2009 David RogersFri, 15 May 2009 17:50:22 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/Pc37/h/Self_Esteem_Review_What.htm __________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com (where you can also sign up to receive a regular copy if you haven't already) __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. In This Issue:- * Introducing AudioMotivation * What is Confidence? * Quote of the Day * Share This Ezine #~#~# As you know, I am always looking out for new and interesting web sites and services to help you with your personal development. Josh Hinds and Andy OBryan have just launched a brand new web site that gives you new, inspiring audio messages of motivation and personal development that will drive you to succeed both at home and at work. Its called, appropriately enough, AudioMotivation.com. Click here to learn more now! #~#~# The quality of articles posted in directories is pretty poor, in my opinion. So its nice to flag up one that's worth reading:- What is Confidence, by Aery Prabhakar If you can drive I'm sure you can identify with Aery's initial point that we don't forget how to drive. That once competent most of the actions of driving become automatic You can drive as well you originally did with a little practice even after years of not driving. The reason is that everything related to driving is now a part of your subconscious mind and doesn't need any conscious input. When you have achieved this level in any skill, you are then 'very confident' about it. Learning to do anything well enough to do it automatically gives us confidence in that activity - until it something goes wrong. Like most people my mother was very confident walking. A few years ago she tripped and broke her hip. Even when she was physically fit enough to walk again, her confidence was still low. How we feel about ourselves depends on the perception we adopt for that activity. For most of us, our perception of our ability to walk or drive is unblemished. But if filtered by an accident, then self confidence is affected. Perceptions are filters which we use to process what happens around us all the time. Our perceptions can easily make us feel good, bad or totally indifferent. They can provide us a great boost of never-ending energy or deflate us into an anxious and fearful mass. Our perceptions have some real power we need to get in control of. Nearly all of our perceptions are based around past experiences - there are very few things we attempt where we have nothing to draw on to make comparisons with. So whether the experience is good or bad will impact on how we judge our future abilities - our perception of the experience acting as a filter. So one way to build self confidence is to start changing some of our perceptions. Remember, two people can have a totally different perception on the same event (just listen to politicians!). You can chose your own view on any experience - you can also chose to revise and take on new perceptions on past experiences. Your first step towards a lasting self-confidence begins by accepting that you may have wrong perceptions in certain matters of your life and about yourself and that a change is required. Click here to see the full article by Aery Prabhakar ________________________________________________ Quotes of the Day ________________________________________________ I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody. ~ Bill Cosby There are ALWAYS sunrises, question is, are you putting clouds in the way? ~ Steve Linder It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are ~ Roy Disney #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com #~#~# Till next time, best wishes David Please feedback via my blog, or just hit reply! © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Mon, 04 May 2009 18:00:13 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/uWxJ/h/Self_Esteem_Review_.htm __________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com (where you can also sign up to receive a regular copy if you haven't already) __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. Lists are quite popular on websites, blogs and within articles. I've used them myself on my blog:- 20 Ways to Build Self Confidence? 8 Ways to Start Faking it 10 Top Tips for Relaxation The trouble is, you can get an awful lot of guff, or padding, that doesn't help much. Skim reading you can easily miss nuggets of information that are worth reflecting on. You're welcome to read Single and Over 40: Holiday Self-Esteem Survival Tips - if nothing else its got a catch title! However I've saved you the bother by just focusing on one tip - number 10:- Remember you are unique, marvellous and special -- but it is your job to bring that glow out. Also a good title. Remembering and reminding yourself that you are unique is part of the battle. But also to change what is wrong. To break down the advice further:- 1) Take stock - acknowledge what isn't working, what is frustrating, which friends put you down, what habits are destructive. 2) Take some baby steps right now - not make major change, don't suddenly quit your job or deactivate your Facebook account. But its important to think of things you can do to help make changes, particularly small, non scary things. Then draw up a plan of action, and then start to TAKE ACTION #~#~# Another list:- 7 Ways to Boost Self Esteem All very general and nothing really mind blowing. Tip 7, asking 3 people what they like about you, sounds quite daunting to me (and may back-fire!) But its worth stating the authors Tip 2 Stop criticizing every little mistake you make. Watch the words you say about yourself. No more stupid or dummy. Everyone makes mistakes. As I've said before, I'm sure President Obama isn't calling himself stupid or dummyafter fluffing his lines at the inauguration... #~#~# Please feedback via my blog, or just hit reply! Till next time, best wishes David #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:30:34 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/1y1lF/h/Self_Esteem_Review_How_to.htm __________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com (where you can also sign up to receive a regular copy if you haven't already) __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. I've just come across a very useful website - HOW TO DO JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING I don't know about everything, but there are several different articles on the theme of How to Improve Your Self Esteem. The articles consist of a list of linked tips by different writers. I've listed the ones I've looked at here, but once on the site you can navigate around quite easily. How to Improve Self-Esteem 14 tips, and starts with a brilliant photo of a cat looking in a mirror and seeing a lion! Tip 4 is about control - do something about the things you can change and to stop allowing yourself to dwell on issues that you have no control over. Tip 9, Self respect, says the biggest and most simple idea to grasp is that people will only treat you as well as you believe you deserve to be treated. #~#~# How to Improve Your Self Esteem Similar title, but only 4 tips here - from not letting pain become fear to addressing self talk. The author suggests that you can turn your life around 100% just by changing 10% of what you say to yourself. #~#~# How to Like Yourself and Improve Your Self Esteem 4 tips including Ask yourself what's likeable about the things you dislike about yourself! If you find these articles useful there are others to explore on the site. Having moaned about the quality of some articles I have come across its nice to find some a bit better. Just take away a few ideas to try out - let me know how you get on. __________________________________________________ Quote of the day __________________________________________________ One of the secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks. - Jack Penn #~#~# Please feedback via my blog, or just hit reply! Till next time, best wishes David #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Sun, 29 Mar 2009 12:39:08 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/1NJGl/h/Self_Esteem_Review_How_to.htm __________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com (where you can also sign up to receive a regular copy if you haven't already) __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. Having said last time I'd hope to have put a few technical difficulties behind me, then my car spontaneously combusts in the middle of the night! Oh well, at least no one was hurt. I have managed to find this interesting article - there's an awful lot of dross out there! In the article Garrett mentions twisted thinking. I find the term unhelpful thinking more appropriate. I wrote three blog posts expanding on what this is, and how to deal with it. http://confident1.com/unhelpful-thinking-part-1 http://confident1.com/unhelpful-thinking-part-2 http://confident1.com/unhelpful-thinking-part-3 There is also advice in the article about keeping a journal. I recently came across this blog post about keeping a Gratitude Journal which I hope you find useful. __________________________________________________ Boost Your Self-Esteem By Garrett Coan __________________________________________________ What Is Self-Esteem? Self-esteem literally means to esteem, or respect, yourself. Having high self-esteem means that you have a positive image of yourself. Let's look at where such a positive self-image comes from. In her classic book Celebrate Yourself, Dorothy Corkville Briggs makes a distinction between the real you and your self-image. She says that the real you is unique and unchanging. Most of your self-image-what you think is true about yourself-is learned. It is not necessarily accurate at all! Where are your beliefs about yourself drawn from? Where did you learn them? If you think about it, you'll see that they came from: What others said about you What others told you What others did to you Your self-image is the result of all the messages you heard about yourself as a child. These messages added up to a set of beliefs about who you are. It may have nothing to do with who you really are. For example, you may believe things like: I'm not very smart. I'm naturally passive. Girls aren't any good at math. I'm too old to start over. All of the women in the Breski family become doctors. I'm painfully shy. The Hurleys never lie. In addition to learning to believe certain things during our early years, there are certain situations that make most people feel inferior or lacking in self-esteem. Some examples are: Being criticized Not being loved Being rejected Experiencing failure What Low Self-Esteem Feels Like In situations like these above, it is not uncommon to feel emotions such as: Sadness Inferiority Anger Jealousy Rejection Cognitive Therapy Cognitive therapy is one of the most successful methods for helping people feel better about themselves. Cognitive therapists help depressed and anxious people feel better by identifying how faulty ways of thinking are making them feel bad. They believe that faulty thoughts cause us to feel bad, which makes us feel bad about ourselves. Cognitive therapists call these faulty ways of thinking twisted thinking. Cognitive therapy is a process where the client analyzes his or her thoughts and beliefs, and learns to substitute more healthy ways of thinking and believing. These therapists help their clients feel better in four steps: First, identify the upsetting events that cause bad feelings; second, record your thoughts about the event; third, identify the distortions in your thinking process; and fourth, substitute rational responses. When the client successfully completes these four steps, the client usually feels better about him- or herself. Thinking the right kinds of thoughts is one way to feel good about yourself. Now let's talk about a second way to increase your self-esteem: by taking a look at your life environment and seeing whether it supports you feeling good about yourself. You may find that some nourishing elements need to be replenished. Here are some questions to ask yourself: Do you have people in your life who: 1. Treat you with love and respect? 2. Encourage you to do and be anything you want? 3. Help you find out what you want to do, and how to do it? 4. Encourage you to explore all of your talents and interests? 5. Are thrilled when you succeed? 6. Listen to you when you need to complain? 7. Help you bounce back from failure without making you feel bad? Take a moment to think about each of the items on this list. Note where your environment is providing adequately for you, and where it is lacking. This can give you clues to how to build your own self-esteem. Strategies for Esteem Building 1. Pay attention to how you are feeling from moment to moment. Tune in to what your five senses are experiencing. Take it down to the most basic level of I feel warm right now, I feel light-headed, I feel a tightness in my stomach. 2. Revisit your interests and goals. Make a list of things you'd like to do and learn. Today, take one step toward learning more. 3. Spend less time with critical people and more time with those who appreciate you. 4. Spend some time with yourself at the end of each day. Review what happened and how you were feeling. Write about it in a private journal. 5. If you are feeling bad about yourself, consider finding a therapist to help you get your life on a positive track. Garrett Coan, MSW, LCSW is Founder and Director of the Center for Creative Counseling, a team of expert and licensed therapists and coaches providing phone and internet counseling services to clients throughout the United States and worldwide. A full library of articles from this author are available at http://www.stressmanagementboutique.com/Article_Library.html To arrange a no-obligation, complimentary consultation, call 1-877-95-UGROW (1-877-958-4769) or visit them on the Web at http://www.creativecounselors.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Garrett_Coan http://EzineArticles.com/?Boost-Your-Self-Esteemandid=10269 __________________________________________________ Quote of the day __________________________________________________ When we're honest about which aspects of our lives are working well---and which are not---we're poised for change. -Dave Ellis #~#~# Please feedback via my blog, or just hit reply! Till next time, best wishes David #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Mon, 16 Mar 2009 13:43:38 -0400http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/1komR/h/Here_s_your_Self_Esteem.htm__________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com or use the Contact form on that site. __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. There seems to have been a burst of recent new subscribers, so a special welcome to you all. My attempts to make this a more regular newsletter have recently been thwarted by technological problems, but hopefully I'm back on track. __________________________________________________ 6 Pillars of Self Esteem__________________________________________________ I've mentioned before the likes of Brian Tracy and Jim Rohn, both highly regarded as gurus and leaders in the field of self improvement and personal development. But I've yet to mention Nathaniel Branden, viewed by many as the leading writer in the field of self esteem. Branden has been working on self esteem since the late 1950's, when the expression was hardly used. Since the 1960's he has written numerous books on the topic. During the 1980's and 90's, when suddenly self esteem became fashionable he remained steadfast and criticized the over simplification and misrepresentation of self esteem that followed. I had read some of his earlier work but not what is currently viewed (he is still writing!) his definitive work 6 Pillars of Self Esteem. Last week I purchased a copy from Amazon (Click here for your copy) I will do a proper review in due course. But as I'm a slow reader here, in brief, are the 6 principles that he calls pillars:- Self-acceptance: Being willing to experience whatever we truly think, feel, or do, even if we don't always like it. Facing our mistakes and learning from them. Self-responsibility: Establishing a sense of control over our lives by realizing that we are responsible for our choices and actions at every level - the achievement of our goals, our happiness, our values. Self-assertiveness: The willingness to express appropriately our thoughts, values, and feelings - to stand up for ourselves. To speak and act from our deepest convictions. Living consciously: Paying attention to information and feedback about needs and goals. Facing facts that may be uncomfortable or threatening. Refusing to wander through life in a self-induced fog. Living purposefully: Setting realistic goals (given an honest awareness of our strengths and weaknesses) and working to achieve them, rather than living at the mercy of chance and outside forces. Developing self-discipline. Integrity: The integration of our behavior with our ideals, convictions, standards and beliefs - acting in congruence with what we truly believe is right. Branden refers to these as internal sources of self esteem, and very much believes we are capable of changing. Our self esteem isn't just shaped by external factors in our early years - and then thats it (as some like to believe). If you want a taste of his work, try this article on assertiveness from his website. The sentence completion tasks appear his main focus of helping his clients to change. Working on improving your self esteem is never going to be an overnight fix, which Nathaniel Branden very much recognizes. __________________________________________________ Quotes of the day__________________________________________________ There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. Productive achievement is a consequence and an expression of health and self-esteem, not its cause. Your life is important. Honor it. Fight for your highest possibilities Nathaniel Branden #~#~# Please feedback via my blog, or reply to this email. If you use Twitter (I'm David365) or other social network sites, please let people know there as well! Till next time, best wishes David #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Wed, 25 Feb 2009 15:52:42 -0500http://archive.aweber.com/self-esteem-rev/cBDZ/h/Here_s_Your_Self_Esteem.htm __________________________________________________ SELF ESTEEM REVIEW __________________________________________________ Self Esteem Review is published by David Rogers. It is only sent to people who have opted in to receive it. Please make comments via my blog at http://confident1.com. Or just reply! __________________________________________________ Hello Welcome to the latest Self Esteem Review. Just a quick note bringing your attention to my latest blog post, How to be Assertive. I think assertiveness is a vital skill in the battle to sustain high self esteem. I can vividly recall my frustrations and anger at not being able to express myself and feeling walked over by aggressive people. Click here to go straight to the post:- http://a.gd/assertive Please check the post out and let me know what you think. I very much appreciate its never as easy in real life as it is for someone like me to write about. If you let me know problems you have with being assertive I can address them here or on the blog. #~#~# Please feedback via my blog, leaving comments on the posts or use just hit reply! Best wishes David #~#~# If you enjoyed this issue of Self Esteem Review please pass it on to a friend, family, co-workers in it entirety or encourage them to sign up at http://confident1.com © Copyright 2009 David Rogers Wed, 21 Jan 2009 14:38:18 -0500