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Just like a dogged advocate who sticks up for the rights they believe in so ardently, or a leader who keeps their focus on what is best for their constituents, letting the criticisms sting less and less, so too should we stick up for ourselves and not succumb to personal attacks.
To have and maintain self-esteem isn't always an easy feat. There will be times when it is easier (when things are going well, and the people around us support us and accept us for who we are), and there will be times when its strength will be tested (others telling you that how you live or what you believe is wrong).
Knowing that the road will be both tranquil and rocky is fair warning because once we do respect ourselves, then we will certainly be tested. Whether it is a colleague who refuses to listen and entertain any of our suggestions, or a friend who is continually disregarding our needs or preferences, this is an opportunity to refuse to allow ourselves to be walked on.
Now I'm not suggesting that we have to act aggressively, but I am suggesting that we gather up some gumption and refuse to continue to passively agree in order to avoid upsetting someone.
As long as you approach the situation with tact and respect, it's okay to ruffle some feathers every once in awhile, and if they choose to ignore you or still disregard you, then you might want to consider different options that are available to deal with them more effectively or extract these people from your life all together.
As promised, the winner of the Nell Stephenson's new book Paleoista will be announced today. I want to thank all of my subscribers who entered, and please remember that you, as a subscriber to the newsletter, will always receive the first head's up on upcoming giveaways. I am happy to announce that Marie Fatil was the lucky winner! (Marie, simply email me your mailing address, and I will send the book straight away.) Congratulations!
In this week's newsletter, I finally am including a post I have been wanting to write for awhile now. Why Not . . . Live Alone for a While? elicited wonderful responses from readers, and I genuinely enjoyed hearing each shared experience regarding this issue. Also this week, was the annual red carpet event that has quickly become my favorite (shh, even just above the Oscars) -The MET Costume Gala. With fashion designers and their muses, the red carpet was full of gorgeous and intriguing ensembles honoring Elsa Schiaparelli along with Miuccia Prada.
I don't know about you, but I am adoring the longer evenings and warm temperatures. The past few evenings have found me lounging in my Adirondack chair on the lawn with my dogs at my feet begging to play fetch, and either reading material or a glass of wine in my hand as I slowly melt into the evening after a long days at work.
May the weekend be good to you and gentle in its handling, and be sure to always keep in mind that you are worth being accepted for exactly as you are and wish to someday be. Keep designing your masterpiece. You're getting closer.
Until next week, I'll see you on the blog.
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