Transcend Through Healing

I hope you are well prepared for Christmas, these frosty mornings are really bringing me into the Christmas spirit, and all we need now it some snow! 

It is the month of December and Christmas is fast approaching.  Christmas is a time for celebration and spending time with loved ones.  It is also about reflection on the past year, the highs and the lows, and being grateful for all we do have in our life.  When reading this newsletter and looking back over the past year, I want you to think of any situations in your life where you can introduce forgiveness.

Forgiveness is not about saying what you did to me is okay or "I was wrong and you were right".  Forgiveness is about acceptance.  Accepting that the perceived wrong happened, acknowledging how you feel about it, willing to let it be and ready to move on with your life.  Forgiveness will allow you to introduce compassion back into your life.

, I am sure you know from past experience that if you do not let go of these emotions and forgive then you are attached to that person or situation.  These emotions continue to grow and can become all consuming.  Where there is no forgiveness, you end up replaying and reliving the events until you are locked in that place/situation.  You end up living a life that is directed by your anger and hurt and you may never move on.  E.g. is there anyone who you have not forgiven?  Close your eyes and think of that person.  Notice how you feel, what you hear and see.  When you close your eyes you are probably transported back to the situation and feel the hurt, anger or resentment.  I am sure that you life would be happier if you could release that person from your emotions.  You are not saying that you are forgetting them or what they did to you, but you releasing yourself from the mental and emotional ties to that person/situation.    

Forgiving yourself is also an important concept.  If you can't forgive yourself, how can you learn to forgive others?  As humans we constantly compare ourselves to others.  We listen to our inner critic telling us that we are not living up to the high standards we or others have set for us.  We never let ourselves "off the hook".   Forgiveness is like presenting yourself with a gift - a choice to release the past and move ahead to a fulfilling life.  By accepting yourself for whom and what you are, you are introducing a new positive behavioural pattern into your life.  A pattern that will empower you let you live in the present and plan for the future. 

So , are you will to waste anymore energy on those people or situation that are chaining you to the past or do you want to forgive?  Do you choose to release the past and take control over your future and emotions?  You can use the below exercises to start you on the path of forgiveness. 

Exercise 1 Gift of Forgiveness

Write down the name of everyone who you have came in contact with who has irritated you or you feel they have done you wrong.  You may find that you can fill a number of pages quiet easily.  Keep going until all the names have come out, you may even find that you are remembering names that you had forgotten.   Don't worry if you get stuck with names.  Just take a deep breath and work with what you have.  You can always repeat the exercise anytime you want. You may find that your own name is on your list. 

You will work down through the list, one name at a time.  At each name, visualise the person in your mind and tell him/her "I forgive you and I release you".

You can do this exercise every day or week.  Ask yourself is there anyone you need to forgive.  This can become a habit like washing your face.  Imagine how you will feel after releasing the anger, hurt or resentment that you are feeling?  Imagine what emotions you can now replace them with love, happiness, laughter...

Exercise 2 Forgiving & Releasing

Focus on your breathing.  Draw whatever Reiki symbols you are attuned to into your hands or in front of you.  If you are not attuned to Reiki you can still do this exercise.   

Bring your attention to your heart chakra.  Get in touch with your loving nature, your unconditional love for yourself and others.  Place in your heart, the first name/situation on your list.  Feel everything that it brings up inside.  How has this situation affected your life?  Has any good come from it?  What can you learn from this situation?

When you are ready to forgive and release the issue, take a moment to thank it for the lessons that it has given you. 

Say "I release ________". See the image rising from your heart charka moving down through your body and out through the root chakra where you send it deep into the earth.  Repeat this for the same issue another two times.  Each time remember to breathe in love and light and exhale any unforgiveness.

Notice any feeling that accompanies the release of this issue.  Acknowledge the feeling and it let it go.

You can continue with the next items on your list in the same manner.

When you are finished, thank reiki for its assistance and presence.

AFFIRMATIONS

Below are a few affirmations (discussed in November Newsletter) for forgiveness.  You can say these to yourself, write them down or stick them up.

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