Transcend Through Healing

Trancend Through Healing 

Forgiveness - Of Yourself and Others

Hi ,
 
I hope you are well prepared for Christmas, these frosty mornings
are really bringing me into the Christmas spirit, and all we need
now it some snow!  

It is the month of December and Christmas is fast approaching. 
Christmas is a time for celebration and spending time with loved
ones.  It is also about reflection on the past year, the highs and
the lows, and being grateful for all we do have in our life.  When
reading this newsletter and looking back over the past year, I want
you to think of any situations in your life where you can introduce
forgiveness. 

"Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of
self-giving love." - Gandhi

Forgiveness is something that many find difficult to deal with, as
people associate it with "letting the other person off the hook". 
However, forgiveness can be an empowering experience for the person
doing the forgiving.  If someone has done you wrong and you are not
forgiving them then you are storing old anger, hurt, fear, guilt or
resentment.  You are probably not hurting them but you are hurting
yourself through storing these emotions.  By holding onto these
emotions, you are weighing you own body down.  By forgiving and
releasing these emotions, you allow more peace into your life.  You
forgive them, release them and let them go.  By doing this, you are
also releasing yourself to move forwards. 

Forgiveness is not about saying what you did to me is okay or "I
was wrong and you were right".  Forgiveness is about acceptance. 
Accepting that the perceived wrong happened, acknowledging how you
feel about it, willing to let it be and ready to move on with your
life.  Forgiveness will allow you to introduce compassion back into
your life. 

, I am sure you know from past experience that if
you do not let go of these emotions and forgive then you are
attached to that person or situation.  These emotions continue to
grow and can become all consuming.  Where there is no forgiveness,
you end up replaying and reliving the events until you are locked
in that place/situation.  You end up living a life that is directed
by your anger and hurt and you may never move on.  E.g. is there
anyone who you have not forgiven?  Close your eyes and think of
that person.  Notice how you feel, what you hear and see.  When you
close your eyes you are probably transported back to the situation
and feel the hurt, anger or resentment.  I am sure that you life
would be happier if you could release that person from your
emotions.  You are not saying that you are forgetting them or what
they did to you, but you releasing yourself from the mental and
emotional ties to that person/situation.     

You can never change the past but you can create your future.  Many
people are consumed by the past.  They are chained to the past
event, thereby linked to that emotional state of hurt, anger or
resentment.  However, whether you are aware of it or not you carry
these bad feelings around with you.  We have no power over the past
but we have control over our present and future.  We can make
choices to release and move on. 

"To err is human; to forgive, Divine." - Alexander Pope

Forgiving yourself is also an important concept.  If you can't
forgive yourself, how can you learn to forgive others?  As humans
we constantly compare ourselves to others.  We listen to our inner
critic telling us that we are not living up to the high standards
we or others have set for us.  We never let ourselves "off the
hook".   Forgiveness is like presenting yourself with a gift - a
choice to release the past and move ahead to a fulfilling life.  By
accepting yourself for whom and what you are, you are introducing a
new positive behavioural pattern into your life.  A pattern that
will empower you let you live in the present and plan for the
future.  

So , are you will to waste anymore energy on those
people or situation that are chaining you to the past or do you
want to forgive?  Do you choose to release the past and take
control over your future and emotions?  You can use the below
exercises to start you on the path of forgiveness.  

Exercise 1 Gift of Forgiveness 

Write down the name of everyone who you have came in contact with
who has irritated you or you feel they have done you wrong.  You
may find that you can fill a number of pages quiet easily.  Keep
going until all the names have come out, you may even find that you
are remembering names that you had forgotten.   Don't worry if you
get stuck with names.  Just take a deep breath and work with what
you have.  You can always repeat the exercise anytime you want. You
may find that your own name is on your list.  

You will work down through the list, one name at a time.  At each
name, visualise the person in your mind and tell him/her "I forgive
you and I release you". 

You can do this exercise every day or week.  Ask yourself is there
anyone you need to forgive.  This can become a habit like washing
your face.  Imagine how you will feel after releasing the anger,
hurt or resentment that you are feeling?  Imagine what emotions you
can now replace them with love, happiness, laughter... 

Exercise 2 Forgiving & Releasing 

Focus on your breathing.  Draw whatever Reiki symbols you are
attuned to into your hands or in front of you.  If you are not
attuned to Reiki you can still do this exercise.    

Bring your attention to your heart chakra.  Get in touch with your
loving nature, your unconditional love for yourself and others. 
Place in your heart, the first name/situation on your list.  Feel
everything that it brings up inside.  How has this situation
affected your life?  Has any good come from it?  What can you learn
from this situation? 

When you are ready to forgive and release the issue, take a moment
to thank it for the lessons that it has given you.  

Say "I release ________". See the image rising from your heart
charka moving down through your body and out through the root
chakra where you send it deep into the earth.  Repeat this for the
same issue another two times.  Each time remember to breathe in
love and light and exhale any unforgiveness. 

Notice any feeling that accompanies the release of this issue. 
Acknowledge the feeling and it let it go. 

You can continue with the next items on your list in the same
manner. 

When you are finished, thank reiki for its assistance and presence. 

AFFIRMATIONS

Below are a few affirmations (discussed in November Newsletter) for
forgiveness.  You can say these to yourself, write them down or
stick them up. 

I forgive and I am forgiven.
 
I forgive myself for being imperfect like everybody else. However,
I am living the best life that I can.
 
As I forgive myself, it become easier to forgive others.
 
As I follow the path of forgiveness, I can create the life I want
as I focus on my present and future.

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Merry Christmas
 
Well that is my last newsletter of 2008!  I will see you in 2009
with more newsletters covering many more topics!  I wish you a
Merry Christmas and lots of fun.  
 
Rosie