Dear ,
Have you ever struggled through a marriage crisis?
Are you going through one now?
A marriage crisis is when
both spouses feel that their
marriage problems are bigger than they can handle.
The crisis could be a result of sexual infidelity, money
worries, lack of communication, or the spouses disconnecting
from each
other.
Regardless of the marriage problem(s), saving a marriage
in crisis is a difficult challenge that requires time, effort,
patience, and wisdom.
But it's worth the effort because unless the couple
learns
to work through their issues, they'll take them into their
next relationship if they call it quits, only to repeat
the cycle.
Here are some simple steps to resolve a marriage crisis:
Step one: Both parties must agree to do whatever it takes
to save their marriage.
Step two: Identify the marriage problems that are threatening
your relationship.
Be
ready to take full responsibility for any mistakes you've
made. Don't shift blame to your spouse.
In fact, schedule time with your partner to sincerely
explain your mistakes; take responsibility and be
transparent.
Step three: Additionally, every couple requires quality
and quantity time to build a healthy relationship with
the capacity and strength to deal with marriage problems.
Re-prioritize your schedule to make sure you have the
time
you need together.
Saving your marriage, or keeping your marriage healthy,
should be a top priority.
It can be as simple as watching a movie together, going to
dinner, taking a walk where you simply enjoy each other and
talk about your life, hopes, feelings and dreams for the
future.
You will be surprised to see how small things like these
enable you to deal with the "bigger"
marriage issues that
come alone.
Step four: Enjoy hobbies of mutual interest together.
Why? Because it helps you to understand each other
better, and draws you closer.
Your closest friend and confidant must be your spouse.
This means that you're there for them and they're
there for you.
Make each other a top priority.
Share your deepest secrets.
Be friends, lovers, and allies.
Finally, Step Five: consider creating a contract for dealing
with marriage problems in order to save your relationship
from further stress.
Make this is a collaborative approach that establishes the
ground rules for negotiating mutual goals, expectations, and
outcomes.
A marriage contract is a simple document that is agreed
upon and accepted by both spouses.
Examples of what could be included are:
o Division of household chores
o Division of financial obligations
o A date night
for both of you, and so on and so forth...
This may sound unusual, but many couples have used the
contract concept with great success to work through
their marriage problems.
Truth is, couples can overcome any marriage problem
and
save their relationship as long as true love still exists
between them.
(By the way, dormant love can be reawakened.)
Genuine commitment, and a viable plan, can save a marriage
that is in crisis- and protect it from a future crisis.
Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and
we want you to be mad about marriage!
