The email came: I know your husband was a meat and potatoes man.
How do you not let addictive habits get in the way of your marriage?
Recently we celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. To celebrate
such an occasion we held an anniversary party, kind of like a
second wedding. Check out our wedding and anniversary pictures by
going to the Raw Transformations page of www.beautifulonraw.com or by clicking here.
Ever wish you could go back to your younger years? Not I! No--give
me the now. But an occasion like this can't help but take me back.
On my wedding day, three decades ago, back in the former Soviet
Union, a lot of things were on my mind. How to make my limp less
noticeable? Would I be able, given the constant discomfort in my
mangled hips, to bear the responsibilities of being a wife and a
mother? If that wasn't enough, I was marrying into a family that didn't especially
want me, and they were brazen enough about it that they didn't even
come to our wedding. In their eyes, I just
wasn't good enough for such a healthy, handsome and well-to-do
How different, how content I feel now. Rough as my first wedding
day was, I felt immeasurably healthy and happy on my 30th
anniversary. This was all because 12 years ago, I discovered the
raw food lifestyle.
Many of you have asked me how Nick is doing with his diet. Well,
for the last two years, Nick has been 100 percent raw...in my
presence. But sometimes I wonder: has the big boy been cheating on
the side? All manner of frets were spinning through my mind. What
was it? A weekend fling with the neighbor's tuna casserole the last
time I was away? Or has he been having a running affair with cheap,
You know, I wouldn't bet my life--hey, I wouldn't bet a turnip-green
smoothie--that Nick hasn't had a nibble or two outside the realm of
the raw. At least the guy has the class not to let me see it, and
he doesn't mention it. He knows it would upset me.
Still, I can't enforce standards. I can say I'm confident Nick
would be as big as a house if he hadn't gone 100 percent raw. Or
90. Or 80. Or...I've learned to be content. I'm grateful there's no
cooked food in the parts of our lives we lead together--ever. So in
my book, Nick hasn't "failed." No, he's partially succeeded. And
a pretty impressive partial, I'd say. He is 70 pounds lighter than
three years ago.
How about you raw-foods readers out there, who've reached and
maintained major plateaus in development...do you want your loved
ones to change? Here's my simple message--a message that comes not
only from the world of raw foods but from the world of marriage:
Don't ask too much. And what you do ask--don't ask for it all at
It was a matter of stages for Nick and me. I remember first asking
him not to have meat in the house. Then milk. Then cheese, and so
on. Go gradually in your demands. And, while you're at it,
transform those demands into requests. If you don't, you might as
well be saying your love is conditional upon your partner's
menu--which wouldn't be real love at all.
Having been married for 30 years now, I've learned that you
should never ask of your spouse more than one thing at a time. I
have also learned that your message needs to be positive,
encouraging. You've got to say: "You're wonderful at this...you've
done so well with that..." Make your requests specific as well, one
small thing at a time: "Hey, how about a glass of vegetable juice
instead of that coffee? For a few days? Well, how about just on
this lovely morning?"
So what is the most powerful thing I can tell you about the art of
persuading people you care about to go raw? It's a simple but
potent principle that governs all motivation: People do things for
their own reasons--not yours. People often tell me they wouldn't go
raw for health's sake, though they would do it for beauty. But Nick
doesn't have this incentive. He's pretty healthy,
doesn't need to take any medications, plays his favorite game table
tennis (ping pong) a lot, and gets on with his life. Gray hair, a
little bit of front porch--he couldn't care less. Those of you who
do care about the way you look, consider yourself lucky since you
have that additional strong incentive.
Thirty years ago, Nick married an "older woman." (Not much of a
scandal--I'm just a year older). Today, he's sometimes asked whether
I'm his daughter. And that's not bragging! The fact is: Raw foods
do work. They will make you better in every way as the years roll
Some people, though, are driven to desperation. They leap at those
luring programs that promise you can have it all without worrying
about diet or exercise. I disagree with their choices, but
argument, persuasion, are only part of the game. The rest is simply
standing as an example-- showing what can be accomplished with the
right eating, regular exercise, and a simple skin care routine.
My books and newsletters are all about encouraging you every step
of the way: a well-tailored raw food lifestyle...intelligently chosen
exercise...and diligently pursued skin care. Yes, it can be a slow
process. But all the other methods--Botox, surgery, quick energy
potions, fancy diet plans, exercise gimmicks--are steeped in false
promises, half-truths, and clearly risky shortcuts.
Your body will
crash if you don't give it what it really needs--an optimal
nutrition and exercise regimen. If you practice these, your body
will surprise you 20 and 30 years later, and by changing yourself,
you'll change your loved ones...
Read more on Living Together...Going Raw...Alone in my book Raw Food and Hot Yoga.
2. New Book by Karen Ranzi-"Creating Healthy Children"
How can I be sure my children are getting all the nutrients growing bodies need while on the raw food diet? How can I convince my children to eat raw? Is it safe to have a raw pregnancy?
I get such questions all the time. I am not an expert on the topic on rearing raw food children, since my son was about to leave for college when I went 100 percent raw 12 years ago, but I know someone who is: Karen Ranzi, the author of Creating Healthy Children and I am excited to offer her book in my Natural Beauty Store.
Before reading Karen Ranzi's book, I thought I was all done with kids--and glad of it! I understand why people want to go raw for anti-aging benefits, but I always thought it would be a real challenge to raise raw kids. Karen Ranzi makes it seem easy and fun. Her book Creating Healthy Children is full term pregnant with parent-child wisdom. It should be priceless to its target audience since I was reading it for the first time at 50 and wishing for new
offspring just to make use of Karen's expert advice and experience the joys of raw parenthood.
The book has an encyclopedic quality and truly shows the seven
years of its author's tireless research while at the same time
employing a writing style that will keep you interested. Learn more
about this book here...
3. New Spring Issue of Get Fresh! Magazine
The Spring 2010 edition of Get Fresh! magazine is hot off the press. Get Fresh! is the best raw food magazine for people passionate about pure food, health and living life to the fullest.
This season's issue is a copious buffet, but it will leave you wanting more. Feast your eyes on the gorgeous photos peppered throughout with recipes from raw chefs Ani Phyo, Russell James, and Cheri Soria, who also contributes her advice on staying younger longer.
A timely and well-researched article by editor Sarah Best exposes the hidden health dangers of air travel, yet doesn't leave out the important aspect of what to do about it.
This issue has something to please every type of palate. The
offerings range from an intriguing 'vegan debate' with Thomas
Billings and Dr. Doug Graham, who reminds us that health is about
more than just food.
You'll also find some vital information on
supplements supplied by nutritionist Jasmine Scalesciani and a
heart warming and educational interview with the raw food veteran Dr. Fred Bisci where he explains his views on consuming sweet fruits.
My presence is this issue is twofold. There an extended article
from yours truly where I discuss Twenty Ways the Raw Food Lifestyle
Makes You Different. It is longer than usual because I could have kept
going to 30 and beyond. My article entitled Let Me Introduce You
to the New You was written to acquaint you with the changes that
accompany a clean, efficient and healthy body.
Whether you are just beginning a raw food journey or already well
established in the lifestyle, you will definitely want to know
what kind of things are in store for you as you progress.
This article will prepare you for some of the ways that being a raw
foodist will make you a very special specimen, indeed: your needs
for water, sunlight, sleep and medical care will all most certainly
be affected as will your skin care needs, even your emotional state.
You are in for some benefits unknown to the general public--
benefits that are sometimes unexpected that the raw food
lifestyle will bring.
It is officially Spring! Signs of birth, regeneration and new life
are everywhere. April positively kisses us with a refreshing array
of seasonal produce such as pineapple, watercress, young spinach
and Swiss Chard, beets and their greens, strawberries, arugula and
asparagus, and nettles and radishes.
This is the month when you can
start adding more of a variety of veggies to your juices,
experimenting with the expanding varieties of greens for your green
smoothies, and putting together mouth-watering fresh main meal salads. Here are a few ideas to get your creative juices
flowing... Click here for the recipes.
Solutions to Aging Neck
Nothing gives away your age like your neck. The neck region, or
décolleté, often gets neglected. In younger years, its skin tone
and musculature are more in-sync with the face, lending a youthful,
graceful look. After 40, an almost imperceptible decline leads to
fat deposits under the chin, weakened muscles and loose skin. And
you can double that trouble if you've lost weight rapidly. We've
all seen, and some of us have had, that turkey wattle. Weight loss,
sun damage, diet, and heredity all play major roles in how our
necks age. Women do seem to care meticulously for their faces, yet
all too often that caring stops at the chin...Continue reading
Solutions to Aging Neck here.
Probiotic Supplements: Pros and Cons
In our modern, hygienic, germophobic society, we forget that we
share an amazing symbiotic relationship with an invisible world.
Microbes exist within, without and all around you. Without them,
your visible world (not to mention your good health) could not
exist. The "invisible world" I'm talking about consists entirely of
microorganisms or, as they're more commonly known, bacteria. Continue reading Probiotic Supplements here.
Raw Food and Hot Yoga Testimonials
"I am 70 percent on the raw food diet at the moment. (I am 32). The
rejuvenation is kicking in with full power. I am also doing the dry
skin brushing and hot yoga and additionally infrared sauna. During
the detox process, there is something else happening: as I am
detoxing my body, I am also detoxing the buried, painful feelings
of my past. Everything comes to the surface: anger, hurt,
disappointment, etc..." Continue reading the Testimonials here.
Stem Cells in a Face Cream
People ask me: There are these new high-tech "stem cell creams" on
the market. What do you think about them?
Here's the scoop on stem
cells...Suppose you cut your finger. Your wound is able to heal
because other skin cells around the damaged area divide and migrate
to seal the wound. Break a leg, and chondrocytes (bone-forming
cells) will repair the damage.Continue reading Stem Cells here.
5. New Summer Tour Dates!
As I announced earlier, we will be going on a tour in July and
August of this year from California northwards through Oregon, Washington, up to British Columbia and back again. It now looks like we
will also be stopping to visit Montana, Colorado and Idaho.
Below is a tentative schedule for the July portion of my tour:
July 7th--Richmond, CA
July 12th--Portland, Oregon
July 14th--Seattle, WA
July 15th--Redmond, WA
July 17th--Vancouver, BC, Canada
July 19th--Vancouver Island, BC, Canada
July 23rd--Golden, BC, Canada
July 25th--Calgary, Alberta, Canada
July 27th--Spokane, WA
July 29th--Montana (more precise location to come!)
If you live in Colorado, Montana, Utah, Idaho, Nevada or Southern
California and would like to arrange a speaking event for 40+ people
in August 2010, please contact us at email@example.com
I am looking forward to seeing you this summer.
The details of up-coming events are being posted in the Calendar of
Events section of my website as soon as they become available.
6. Please Note: SPAM issue has been resolved
If you received any emails from my prior hotmail account espousing
electrical gadgets, iphones or blackberries, and...motorcycles,
please disregard them! They were most assuredly not from me.
hotmail account was hacked, and you have my sincerest apologies for
any annoyance these emails may have caused you.
I am grateful that
the emails didn't say that I made a trip to London, was mugged and
was asking you to send money. That did happen to Kelli, my
I firmly believe that all life experiences happen for a
reason and always for our highest good. We can let them devastate
us or use them to propel us to learn and grow. I'm computer virus
savvy now and far more protected than before.