[X&Y] Why Putting A Woman On A Pedestal Is A Bad Idea
Published: Thu, 05/24/18
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IN THIS EDITION: You've heard a million times that "putting women
on a pedestal" is a bad idea. Now it's time to find out exactly
WHY...and it's not just about your perceived "value" versus hers.
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MAKING WOMEN LOVE YOU DOESN'T HAVE TO BE DIFFICULT
Ask a woman what her idea of a real man is and you won't hear
anything about being "macho".
What you WILL hear will be "code" for what makes her sexually
attracted.
Want proof? Look at this from your own perspective...
Were I to ask you what makes a woman 100% female, chances are
you'd quickly rattle off a list of everything you find sexy about her.
It wouldn't be about how she likes shoe shopping, goes to the ladies'
room with all of her friends and watches the Oxygen channel.
This is the way it's supposed to be.
After all, masculinity and femininity are the building blocks of sexual
attraction.
Unfortunately, we as guys get mixed messages from society
about masculinity.
That's why The Big 4 Man Challenge is all about clearing away
the fog and getting you back to where you belong:
Being the FREAKING MAN in virtually every aspect of life...
...and getting in front of those irresistibly feminine women who are
getting more and more frustrated due to the lack of men like you
in their world:
50% Off The Big 4 Man Challenge + Female Persuasion FREE
What red-blooded guy wouldn't want to intrigue their socks off,
right? Well, it's time for you to get in on what's been making the
world go 'round for millennia.
Get your masculinity running on all cylinders and you'll fire her up
like the spark plug she is.
I've activated the automatically-applied bigfour50 coupon code,
which lets you score The Big 4 Man Challenge for a full 50% off.
That coupon is live until tomorrow night at midnight Pacific
Standard Time:
50% Off The Big 4 Man Challenge + Female Persuasion FREE
And right now, I'm also giving you my definitive program on
how to be charming and irresistible to women. That's Female
Persuasion, of course.
That's yours FREE.
(NOTE: You won't see any mention of this deal on the web
site itself...only on the order page.)
It's time to make a bold move to stop settling for the "Just Be
Friends Zone". That place is populated only by "neuter" guys.
When you man up, women respond the way you've always wanted
them to...because that's how it's supposed to be.
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WHY PUTTING A WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL IS A BAD IDEA
By now we know the basic warning all too well: Put a woman on a
pedestal, and you send a clear message to her that she's of "higher
value" than you are, and therefore she'll never in a million years
be attracted to you.
Not good.
For what it's worth, I completely believe in the truth of that statement.
Nothing's going to cause a woman to banish you to the "Just Be
Friends Zone" any faster than demonstrating to her that you believe
she's out of your league.
After all, when the knights of old first romanticized the concept
of "placing a woman on a pedestal", I'm pretty sure they weren't
implying that they (or we) should "worship her". Chivalry was
supposed to underscore masculinity, not defeat it.
But nonetheless, you know how the story typically ends nowadays.
The woman you're so hopelessly idealizing sees nothing particularly
wrong with you, and even she is frustrated because she can't figure
out why she's "just not feeling it" for you.
What's happened in such a case is you've actually triggered in her
a sinking feeling that she would be the center of your world.
But in order for her to feel as if you can provide her that
all-important (and attractive) feeling of safety and security, the
last thing you can expect to get away with is thrusting upon her
full responsibility for your ambition, motivation and passion.
After all, that's supposed to be YOUR job, not HERS.
The whole scenario starts looking like a dog chasing its tail at
that point. And as we all know about dogs that chase their own
tails, they go nowhere...fast.
That alone gives a bit more insight into why putting a woman on a
pedestal backfires.
But there's more.
As we were just reminded, women need to feel safe and secure in our
presence. That's a major linchpin of the "big four".
So with that in mind, let's turn our attention to what would happen
even if putting her on a pedestal actually worked.
What if you covered your bases elsewhere in the attraction process
and she actually was interested in going out with you anyway?
Well if you've idealized her so much up front that she can
basically do no wrong, she may feel pressured to live up to your
expectations.
And if your expectation is perfection, that's going to drive her
NUTS.
Do you want to turn a perfectly decent woman into a raving psycho
who resents you every time she exhibits any form of basic human
frailty?
Congratulations. You will have successfully created that monster,
doctor Frankenstein.
And what about you?
When you spot a woman and she's immediately exalted to
goddess-like status in your estimation, there's NO WAY she's going
to meet your expectations.
You almost can't blame her for growing more and more frustrated
trying to keep up with your imagination.
After all, she's going to fail you. You ARE going to find out she's
human after all.
And that's when guys tend to pull stunts like losing all attraction
for a woman the first time she gets sick in your bathroom. ...Or
the first time you see her in the morning without makeup. ...Or the
first time she "loses composure" and cries about something.
In fact, if you can relate to what I'm talking about, chances are
you've indeed been putting women on pedestals up front, only to be
disappointed later...even after getting what you thought you wanted
so badly.
And here's the "punch line": When you find yourself suddenly not
attracted anymore, you often can't really put your finger on WHY
you're "not feeling it anymore".
And so the whole dynamic comes full circle.
Notably, I've been assuming thus far that the woman of your
affection is a well-adjusted human being with a healthy self-image.
I haven't even mentioned what happens when you place a woman with
low self-esteem on a pedestal. And we all know that LOTS and LOTS
of women fit that description.
Well, THAT woman is likely to be even more disgusted by you should
you adore her profusely.
Why?
Well, if she sees little or no value in herself, what does your adoration
say to HER about YOU? If she perceives that you see more value in
her than she does in herself, how can that possibly end well for you?
You'd hope that your confidence in her would inspire her to think
more highly of herself, right?
Unfortunately, however, that's not usually how the cookie crumbles.
You can't often just walk up and fix low self-esteem.
The hard truth is that YOU'LL become even LESS valuable to her for
thinking so highly of her.
Pretty twisted, right? But that's how it's likely to go.
In her mind, at least the guy who "understands" her low value and
treats her accordingly will come off as "honest", and she'll feel
like she's with the kind of guy she deserves.
Welcome, as an added bonus here, to why you should run away from
women with low self-esteem.
But ultimately, whether the woman has a healthy self-esteem or an
unhealthy self-image, you lose either way when you place her on a
pedestal.
That's the bottom line.
The high quality woman who is a real gem slots you beneath her
(even if subconsciously), while the woman with low self-esteem
straight-up faults you for thinking highly of her.
So the moral of the story here is dead simple.
Stop pre-qualifying women as the "perfect woman" up front, and do
both you AND her the service of evaluating what's beneath the
attractive exterior.
That's a key first step to creating the proper environment in which
a real, solid relationship can potentially develop.
View yourself as a man with real options, who is neither rushed nor
forced into scrambling to keep that one "pretty face" from rejecting
him.
After all, in the end, if you put a woman on a pedestal--especially
very early on--rejection may have actually been the easier and less
painful way out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. As a reminder to you guys out there who are into travel and
adventure, the Wing-It Worldwide podcast gives you a completely
different glimpse into what it's REALLY like to visit some of the
most interesting places in the world:
The Wing-It Worldwide Podcast On iTunes
Not on iTunes? No worries:
http://www.wingitworldwide.com/podcast
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
IN THIS EDITION: You've heard a million times that "putting women
on a pedestal" is a bad idea. Now it's time to find out exactly
WHY...and it's not just about your perceived "value" versus hers.
=====
MAKING WOMEN LOVE YOU DOESN'T HAVE TO BE DIFFICULT
Ask a woman what her idea of a real man is and you won't hear
anything about being "macho".
What you WILL hear will be "code" for what makes her sexually
attracted.
Want proof? Look at this from your own perspective...
Were I to ask you what makes a woman 100% female, chances are
you'd quickly rattle off a list of everything you find sexy about her.
It wouldn't be about how she likes shoe shopping, goes to the ladies'
room with all of her friends and watches the Oxygen channel.
This is the way it's supposed to be.
After all, masculinity and femininity are the building blocks of sexual
attraction.
Unfortunately, we as guys get mixed messages from society
about masculinity.
That's why The Big 4 Man Challenge is all about clearing away
the fog and getting you back to where you belong:
Being the FREAKING MAN in virtually every aspect of life...
...and getting in front of those irresistibly feminine women who are
getting more and more frustrated due to the lack of men like you
in their world:
50% Off The Big 4 Man Challenge + Female Persuasion FREE
What red-blooded guy wouldn't want to intrigue their socks off,
right? Well, it's time for you to get in on what's been making the
world go 'round for millennia.
Get your masculinity running on all cylinders and you'll fire her up
like the spark plug she is.
I've activated the automatically-applied bigfour50 coupon code,
which lets you score The Big 4 Man Challenge for a full 50% off.
That coupon is live until tomorrow night at midnight Pacific
Standard Time:
50% Off The Big 4 Man Challenge + Female Persuasion FREE
And right now, I'm also giving you my definitive program on
how to be charming and irresistible to women. That's Female
Persuasion, of course.
That's yours FREE.
(NOTE: You won't see any mention of this deal on the web
site itself...only on the order page.)
It's time to make a bold move to stop settling for the "Just Be
Friends Zone". That place is populated only by "neuter" guys.
When you man up, women respond the way you've always wanted
them to...because that's how it's supposed to be.
=====
WHY PUTTING A WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL IS A BAD IDEA
By now we know the basic warning all too well: Put a woman on a
pedestal, and you send a clear message to her that she's of "higher
value" than you are, and therefore she'll never in a million years
be attracted to you.
Not good.
For what it's worth, I completely believe in the truth of that statement.
Nothing's going to cause a woman to banish you to the "Just Be
Friends Zone" any faster than demonstrating to her that you believe
she's out of your league.
After all, when the knights of old first romanticized the concept
of "placing a woman on a pedestal", I'm pretty sure they weren't
implying that they (or we) should "worship her". Chivalry was
supposed to underscore masculinity, not defeat it.
But nonetheless, you know how the story typically ends nowadays.
The woman you're so hopelessly idealizing sees nothing particularly
wrong with you, and even she is frustrated because she can't figure
out why she's "just not feeling it" for you.
What's happened in such a case is you've actually triggered in her
a sinking feeling that she would be the center of your world.
But in order for her to feel as if you can provide her that
all-important (and attractive) feeling of safety and security, the
last thing you can expect to get away with is thrusting upon her
full responsibility for your ambition, motivation and passion.
After all, that's supposed to be YOUR job, not HERS.
The whole scenario starts looking like a dog chasing its tail at
that point. And as we all know about dogs that chase their own
tails, they go nowhere...fast.
That alone gives a bit more insight into why putting a woman on a
pedestal backfires.
But there's more.
As we were just reminded, women need to feel safe and secure in our
presence. That's a major linchpin of the "big four".
So with that in mind, let's turn our attention to what would happen
even if putting her on a pedestal actually worked.
What if you covered your bases elsewhere in the attraction process
and she actually was interested in going out with you anyway?
Well if you've idealized her so much up front that she can
basically do no wrong, she may feel pressured to live up to your
expectations.
And if your expectation is perfection, that's going to drive her
NUTS.
Do you want to turn a perfectly decent woman into a raving psycho
who resents you every time she exhibits any form of basic human
frailty?
Congratulations. You will have successfully created that monster,
doctor Frankenstein.
And what about you?
When you spot a woman and she's immediately exalted to
goddess-like status in your estimation, there's NO WAY she's going
to meet your expectations.
You almost can't blame her for growing more and more frustrated
trying to keep up with your imagination.
After all, she's going to fail you. You ARE going to find out she's
human after all.
And that's when guys tend to pull stunts like losing all attraction
for a woman the first time she gets sick in your bathroom. ...Or
the first time you see her in the morning without makeup. ...Or the
first time she "loses composure" and cries about something.
In fact, if you can relate to what I'm talking about, chances are
you've indeed been putting women on pedestals up front, only to be
disappointed later...even after getting what you thought you wanted
so badly.
And here's the "punch line": When you find yourself suddenly not
attracted anymore, you often can't really put your finger on WHY
you're "not feeling it anymore".
And so the whole dynamic comes full circle.
Notably, I've been assuming thus far that the woman of your
affection is a well-adjusted human being with a healthy self-image.
I haven't even mentioned what happens when you place a woman with
low self-esteem on a pedestal. And we all know that LOTS and LOTS
of women fit that description.
Well, THAT woman is likely to be even more disgusted by you should
you adore her profusely.
Why?
Well, if she sees little or no value in herself, what does your adoration
say to HER about YOU? If she perceives that you see more value in
her than she does in herself, how can that possibly end well for you?
You'd hope that your confidence in her would inspire her to think
more highly of herself, right?
Unfortunately, however, that's not usually how the cookie crumbles.
You can't often just walk up and fix low self-esteem.
The hard truth is that YOU'LL become even LESS valuable to her for
thinking so highly of her.
Pretty twisted, right? But that's how it's likely to go.
In her mind, at least the guy who "understands" her low value and
treats her accordingly will come off as "honest", and she'll feel
like she's with the kind of guy she deserves.
Welcome, as an added bonus here, to why you should run away from
women with low self-esteem.
But ultimately, whether the woman has a healthy self-esteem or an
unhealthy self-image, you lose either way when you place her on a
pedestal.
That's the bottom line.
The high quality woman who is a real gem slots you beneath her
(even if subconsciously), while the woman with low self-esteem
straight-up faults you for thinking highly of her.
So the moral of the story here is dead simple.
Stop pre-qualifying women as the "perfect woman" up front, and do
both you AND her the service of evaluating what's beneath the
attractive exterior.
That's a key first step to creating the proper environment in which
a real, solid relationship can potentially develop.
View yourself as a man with real options, who is neither rushed nor
forced into scrambling to keep that one "pretty face" from rejecting
him.
After all, in the end, if you put a woman on a pedestal--especially
very early on--rejection may have actually been the easier and less
painful way out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. As a reminder to you guys out there who are into travel and
adventure, the Wing-It Worldwide podcast gives you a completely
different glimpse into what it's REALLY like to visit some of the
most interesting places in the world:
The Wing-It Worldwide Podcast On iTunes
Not on iTunes? No worries:
http://www.wingitworldwide.com/podcast
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2018. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.