[X&Y] Dealing With Roommates (Especially When You Invite Her To Your Place)
Published: Wed, 07/10/19
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You've met a great woman and you'd like to invite
her over to your place. If you have a roommate--or are planningto--here's what you need to know.
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THE BACHELOR'S GUIDE TO DEALING WITH ROOMMATES
This is one of those topics I can't believe hasn't been written
about more often.
After all, by definition if you're "single" that means you either
live alone or with roommates.
Sure, some of us like having a place to ourselves. If that's the
case, and we have the means to afford such an arrangement,
that's well and good.
But the reality is that lots of us get roommates, be that for
financial reasons or even for social reasons.
Social reasons?
Sure.
For starters, you may be of the opinion it's nice to have someone
around to hang out with when you DON'T have a woman visiting.
And if you're talking about having more than one roommate, there's
something about a house full of guys that seems to encourage womento "drop in" more frequently.
That can be a very good thing.
Back when I lived in Arizona, I lived alone in a one-bedroom
apartment for a few months before finally moving into a rented
house with three other guys.
My roommates and I had a common interest in fast motorcycles, so
the garage was full of them.
And let's just say there were more women around that house on a
regular basis than I was used to when I lived alone.
In fact, I look upon those days in that house as some of the best
of my life. There was ALWAYS something going on, and attractive
women were usually part of it.
Now, notice that my roommates and I in that particular scenario
shared a key COMMON INTEREST.
Note also that we were ALL FRIENDS before deciding to move in
together.
That's not to say we never had a few testosterone-fueled
differences along the way, but the fact that we pretty much knew
what to expect from each other beforehand proved to be major.
On top of all that, we were all relatively equal in terms of social
skill, ability to interact with women, and the like.
Add all of this up, and we had a situation where it was reasonable
to expect that nobody was going to drag down anyone else's social
status or even flat-out embarrass the rest of us.
In fact, we basically "winged" for each other all the time, even when
women dropped in to visit.
So yeah, choosing a roommate (or roommates) cannot be treated
as a "random" decision.
The last thing you want when you're getting better and better with
women is to be stuck with a roommate who is utterly dateless and
bitter about it.
The dichotomy between your respective levels of success may
cause him to try to sabotage your good fortune, possibly by saying
embarrassing things when you bring a woman over or even
"refusing to yield" when you're ready for some "alone time".
I mean, think about it. Life would be a nightmare for your
ROOMMATE also, wouldn't it?
You just can't bet on him being energized and motivated to do
better with women having seen your level of success, can you? It
might very well be KILLING him to watch you bring women home.
This isn't freshman year in college anymore, gentlemen. It's not
like you have to settle for whichever roommate you get by luck of
the draw.
So choose your roommate carefully. Don't just post an ad on
Craigslist and let the first guy who flashes the cash for half the
rent money move in.
Make sure you've got a guy who's pretty much on equal footing with
you socially, from every angle.
And every bit of what I've just said couldn't be more important if
your prospective roommate happens to be your BROTHER. Family
ties are forever, but oftentimes so is resentment.
If there's even a remote hint that there will be significant social
differences between you and a brother--or other family member
you may be considering rooming with--just say "no".
I'm telling you...a little potential friction now is better than a lifetime
of never speaking to each other again. Don't kid yourself.
But there's even more to making sure a roommate arrangement
works effectively.
It's crucial that you have decent housekeeping skills and choose a
roommate with a similar outlook on life.
Women can't stand it when a guy's place is a complete mess.
When you "get" that, you can't afford to have Oscar Madison living
in the same house.
Otherwise, you'll pay dearly by being the one who cleans up after
BOTH of you. Either that, or don't expect women to come back a
second time. Forget it.
You also have to have a pre-set agreement with your roommate on
how to react when one of you invites a woman over.
Hopefully, the place is at least big enough so that you each have
your own bedroom and therefore don't have resort to the "sock on
the door" signal.
Whether you agree to vacate the premises for each other, stay
out of sight for each other or say a quick, polite "hello" THEN
disappear from sight is to be decided BEFORE "crunch time" is
imminent.
Believe me, things are more likely to end well if you get that plan
in place ahead of time.
Implicit here, of course, is that your roommate is a guy.
I have to say that's preferable to having a woman who is allegedly
"just friends" living with you. After all, it's going to be a tough sell
to most women that absolutely nothing is going on there.
In fact, if you DO have a female roommate and the relationship is
legitimately platonic, I'd recommend not mentioning your living
arrangements to ANY woman you're dating...and I'd find
somewhere else to take her OTHER than your place.
And if your "roommate" happens to be your MOM, that goes
double!
But speaking of family, what if you're "roommates" are actually
your CHILDREN?
Well, that's a whole different ballgame.
Generally speaking, I highly recommend AGAINST bringing a woman
home when your kids are around, unless you've clearly established
an exclusive relationship with her and the kids know that.
Let's face it, you just don't want to be introducing your sons and
daughters to a steady stream of "female friends".
They're more socially observant than you might think...even as
young as say, two years old.
Parading lots of women through the house will only confuse them.
Plus, it might bum them out if they particularly like OR dislike
one or more of them.
What's more, there's perhaps the most overlooked factor of all
relevant to this point: A woman can work REALLY fast at winning
your kids over.
The next thing you know she's leveraging your own kids toward
getting into an exclusive relationship with you before you're ready.
And that's not the kind of political wrangling you need in your
household, right?
I used to think that finding women who had kids the same age as
your own young children was the perfect storm. After all, you
could just position get-togethers as "play dates", right?
But nowadays, I'm even reconsidering the validity of that strategy
vis-à-vis what I just told you.
Seriously...there's a lot more to think about when it comes to
roommates than you may have thought, right?
Make no mistake about it, choosing a roommate and building a
solid plan with the dude when it comes to your M.O. when women
come over is mission critical.
And getting all of that right isn't necessarily easy. It's enough
to make you think twice about living alone after all.
But then again, it sure was cool having women around the
house all the time back in Arizona.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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