[Our Transitioning Times] Past, Present and Future?

Published: Wed, 06/21/23

 

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Dear Readers:

One of the things I have been blessed with is a good memory for details of events that either have happened directly to me in my life, or of events or items that I was able to experience or view in my youth. Additionally, some of those memories go back to times even further, to either stories, music, readings, or school lessons of events or happenings that occurred long before I was born, but were shared with me by my elders. I recently celebrated my 68th birthday. As I was reflecting on that fact, it occurred to me that I have recollection of items that now go back nearly 100 years. I would even go further and say, I probably am sharper about the details of what have happened either in my past life, or in life before I was even born, than on the details of events necessarily happening in the world around me today.

As I reflect on these thoughts, we all have in our life, our past, our living in the present and our future desires or goals. Some will criticize those who are nostalgic about events in the past, as “living in the past,” and they need to live in the world of today. Others will obsess about the future, and will be equally chastised for obsessively worrying about what is to come.  And, while indeed we can only truly live in the “here and now,” and enjoy the “present,” I know that human nature is such that many of us will reflect on all three dimensions. I know that I do.

Certainly, as recent as 15 years ago, I had no projection of what I would be doing today as a Career Coach. In fact, it was around this time of the year in 2008 I began getting introduced to materials that began shaping my current life. I had just left my corporate career, (the only way I knew of working), in late 2007. A holiday season and some home renovations later took me to the spring of 2008. As part of my corporate departure, I was given the benefit of outplacement services. While I did not necessarily see myself going back to work full-time, I was beginning to see I wanted to explore a “What’s Next” in my life. Fortunately, the outplacement service had a series of sessions that were entitled “Your Great Life After 50 Years of Age.” I always did like learning new material that appealed to me, so I made sure to attend the sessions. Again, I was not sure what if anything I was going to do next, but it was great to be presented with thoughts and options.  (Editorial Side Note Here:  Many of my clients come to me today having received outplacement benefits. Some of those clients embrace the benefit. Others may speak to me for a session or two, and I never hear from them again. Still others, do not connect with me at all.  I feel these last two occurrences are such a tragedy.  If you are given something as a benefit, ESPECIALLY ONE YOU DON’T HAVE TO PAY FOR, take advantage of it.  You never know where it may lead.) From there, as they say, the rest is history.

The past, the present and the future. All three should be brought into focus by those in job or career search. One’s resume is a document of your history, but most importantly of your Accomplishments as a professional.  The future is reflected not only by your next opportunity or job role, or perhaps a job role or career choice several years into the future. Your next, immediate role may often be a step on the direction to that goal. And, of course there is then the present. What are the needs of the individuals or companies you are meant to serve today, and to which you offer your talents? How are things accomplished with today’s tools for your line of skills. What skills or knowledge do you need to develop?

This month’s feature entitled “Past, Present and Future” will provide some thoughts from my training as a Job Search Strategy Coach on how you may want to best prepare yourself as you move forward in your career, (whether you currently are active in job search or not). As usual, if you have any questions or items you would like to discuss with me, please feel free and reach out to me at
[email protected] or call me at (201) 306-9811. I look forward to hearing from you.

Tony Calabrese

www.absolutetransitions.com
[email protected]
(201) 306-9811


Past, Present and Future? 
 

How would you describe your current career or job?  What led you to the type of work you do? While some may say to me, they do not know and their career just evolved from a series of experiences, (college or vocational training, need for income at a moment in time or they stumbled upon something at which they were good and there was a need for their talents or services), if you stop to think about these first two questions, there may be additional clues if you stop to think your life through. One of the earliest tools that I was introduced to in my Career Coach training was one known as the Seven Stories exercise, that I learned through the Five O’Clock Club. It works something like this.

The person taking the Seven Stories exercise assessment is asked to think through events in their entire life to date, (whether those events were accomplished in a job setting or in another life setting). The assessment taker is given the following instructions. Capture those items that happened in your life that you consider an Accomplishment, and most of all Enjoyed doing. It does not matter what others think about the item or event, if you consider it an Accomplishment and it gave you pleasure doing it, capture it on the list. Do this for about 25 different events in your life. If you cannot think of that many, at least look to capture 15 to 20 such items. Once completed, choose the top 7 items from your list, and rank them from most satisfying and on down from 2nd to 7th. Then answer a series of questions, such as what did you enjoy about this event, with whom were you doing the event, what made you proud to have accomplished it? (There are about 7 or 8 questions in total to capture your mindset). Then once seeing your answer, look to spot trends. What were the common skills you were using in these accomplishments? What type of individuals were with you as you accomplished these items? How might you gain the same experiences in your life today?

Tools such as a Seven Stories Exercise, and even items such as past work performance reviews, commendation letters you received from others, awards you may have received, etc., are all parts of your Past to bring into the employment or career search process. You will not get very far in an interview process for a new job position, without being asked a question such as “Tell Me About a Time That You Helped Solve a Particular Problem for a Customer or for Your Company?” A resume that is only filled with tasks or a description of the job you did and not what you Accomplished in that job role, is not going to get you too far.  Accomplishment statements on a resume, (in bulleted format), are expected in today’s job search world. Those Accomplishment statements identify a problem you and your co-workers addressed, the actions you took to solve the problem, and the positive results of what you did accomplish. It provides clues to those who may look to hire you as to what you may be able to do for their organization.

This leads from the Past into the Present. I always like to say to those I work with in job search, “I know that you believe that this job search is about you and what you want in terms of a job, but you need to think about it from the perspective of the hiring company. It is all about them. What challenges are they facing? What problems are they looking for the applicant to solve for them, or to address is supporting their business or customers?” And, while certainly I am not saying one’s feelings are not important in the job search, (only you know the type of commute you are willing to endure, the type of company work culture that appeals to you, the type of industries in which you would choose to work and those which do not call to you), ultimately companies (and individuals looking for services from a sole provider) will hire those whom they best feel can meet their needs.

As such, look carefully at the job postings that are attractive to you. What skillsets are those job postings expecting the applicant to have. Which skills are must haves, versus which skills are preferred or a plus if an applicant has them. Are these skills fairly easy to obtain if one does not possess them?  Can they be gained through training classes or certification classes? Additionally, does it appear that particular industries have a strong need for your skill set? If so, what is your experience in that industry? Which of your skills from other industries are comparable or easily transferable to the industry with which you have not had past experience? Your ability to move into the type of your role you desire in today’s present world is often tied to questions such as or comparable to these.

This leads us forward from Present to Future. While you may not have the skill set level for the position you desire in a particular industry at a given point of time, perhaps taking a lower-level position in your chosen profession is a way to start in a new industry. As your knowledge level and understanding in that new industry develop it moves you forward in the Future for the type of position you desire. Or, if as part of your search you realize that you are looking to entirely change career function, choosing to apprentice in a role at a new company in the new function may be the springboard to future career advancement.  

I had no experience in the coaching profession when I started in the discipline. My 30 years of corporate experience had me in roles as a Manager/Director of Information Technology professionals and in the Financial Services discipline in the financial reporting function. However, I always was an empathetic manager, listening to the challenges and aspirations of my staff. My outplacement experience led me to ways I could be trained in the Coaching profession. After receiving my certification, I learned a whole new way of working, from a person in a large corporation to entrepreneurial business owner. I found my new support team of professionals were both other coaches and other entrepreneurial business owners. I learned that I could find those who needed my services not only as a full-time employee but in Coach/Consultant contractor roles. The evolution from Past to Present to Future continues for me, (and for others who embrace the job change/career change process), and will continue as I ultimately decide how I may want to transition to the next phases of my life.

Past, Present and Future. They can be distinct periods in your life, but they can also often be strongly linked together. It is up to you and the effort you want to focus on them that will help connect you to that which is most important for you to be doing in your life at the Present time.  


 
 
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June 2023 - Closing Thoughts

Stuck on an issue that you can’t move forward with in your life? Not sure what steps to consider taking in your job search? Absolute Transitions offers 1-hour complimentary consultations to any individual who wants to learn more about life or career (job search) coaching. You can take advantage of this offer by signing onto www.absolutetransitions.com and clicking the Complimentary Coaching Consultation tab. Or you can call me at 201-306-9811 to discuss. I’d love to hear from you.

Absolute Transitions coaching also continues to offer two very popular complimentary e-Courses. The course entitled “5 Key Steps in Searching for Your Next Job” is invaluable to those currently in job search or considering changing careers. “Overcoming Obstacles to Change Your Life” provides participants five choices on how to deal with conflict situations which come into their life. Sign into the www.absolutetransitions.com website to sign up by filling in your name and email in the appropriate sign-up boxes on the right hand side of the page.

If you are looking to move your career forward, suddenly find yourself out of a job or under employed, look to get help in your search. While a career coach is one option, there are several outstanding support groups likely to be in your area. Whether held at your local library, run by a church or by your state Department of Labor, don’t go through a job search alone. Those in search find that having support, (often just from other job seekers), helps to move a search forward in a productive manner. Another thing to keep in mind, has been since the advent of the COVID 19 crisis, many of these groups offer their sessions virtually, online.

If you have recently moved to an area, especially if you are accompanying a family member or friend who has moved due to a job transfer, consider your own needs. There is a lot to consider when you are the “accompanying partner.” There are acclimation issues, job search issues, settling children in school, etc. If you would like to discuss the type of support you likely may need, feel free to reach out to me, and I would be glad to discuss with you.

Over the last 2 years, I have been introduced to an outstanding new assessment tool of which I am a distributor. Known as the “Absolute Transitions Career Values Assessment,” it is based on 7 sciences. The tool provides those who take it feedback on their top 7 work values, if any of those values are out of alignment in their current life, the types of ways they work best, and the types of work environments which may be best for them. Please reach out to me at the email or phone numbers below to learn more.

If you have any questions on any of the material in this issue or a suggestion for a topic you would like to see covered in a future edition, please contact Tony at 201-306-9811 or reach out to him at [email protected], and he would be happy to discuss it with you.

Look for the next issue of “Our Transitioning Times” coming to you on July 19, 2023.



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Tony Calabrese
Absolute Transitions
http://absolutetransitions.com


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