Our refrigerator was making a weird noise, so I called a repairperson to come to the house. My handy husband can fix almost anything (definitely a 90%) but appliances are not his specialty.
As I always do, I am chatting up the repairperson as he is working away on the fridge. I asked if they have been busy lately and he replied, “We are so busy!” He went on to explain that with all of the people working from home now they are hearing all the little noises their appliances make that they never noticed before. The 10%s are really annoying them.
This is a great parallel to our relationships right now. With many people being home all day, we are noticing all the 10%s that we may have not heard or avoided before. There is nothing like spending 24/7 together to start to see the 10%s in each other. I have looked over at Darren and thought, “OMG, did you always chew like that?” and I know he thinks, “Did you always talk this much?” Despite our 10% annoyances we have committed to doing what we can to see each
other through a 90% loving lens.
Did spending all of this time together bring you closer or push you further apart? If COVID has been hard on your relationship be honest with yourself. Was the noise there before and are you just hearing it now? Has this time together revealed the things we need to work on … and repair?
You are worthy of a great relationship,