Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who are moms, surrogate moms, guardians, and mothers in your communities and workplaces; I celebrate you.
I’ve been a mom for 22 years, and I’ve done some really hard things in my life, but I tell you, being a mom is one of the hardest. I have learned so much about myself; parenting is the most intense personal development journey of my life.
I learned at a very young age that my children were listening and watching my actions, my words, and my behaviours. One of the gifts I gave myself during motherhood was making sure, 90% of the time, I showed up the example of what I wanted them to be. I learned a valuable lesson about this when my now adult daughter was 18 months
My daughter was playing on the floor with her new doll. Now, this doll did not have a name yet, and while she was playing away, the phone rang
(back in the days of landlines), and I picked up the phone; it was my girlfriend. I was pregnant with our son, and she asked me how I felt. I said I felt really pregnant, and my arse was really big. As soon as I finished the call, my daughter, hearing that while playing on the floor with the doll, held it up and proudly called it “Arsy.”
It was an incredible example as I stood in the kitchen watching my daughter call this doll Arsy based on what she just heard me say. At that moment, I knew my children would watch, listen, and model my behaviour. No matter how hard I tried to convince her that this was not a good name for the doll, it
I have made a lot of mistakes, I am not a perfect mom, and we absolutely have 10% days, but I show up. I don’t think it’s ever too late to show up. I don’t care if your children are two, twelve, or twenty-two; it’s never too late to do things better and
differently. Tell the people you raised that you love them and are proud of them.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you moms out there; thank you for all you do in the most difficult job in the world.