Feelings are fickle. 

You can feel soooo in love with your spouse today, all warm and cozy inside, with butterflies in your stomach.

But be totally turned off tomorrow because of something they said or did.

Roller-coaster feelings create a very unstable foundation for the marriage and fill the relationship with uncertainty.

Change How You Think

You must change the way you think about love if you want a healthy relationship that's consistently happy. 

Are “butterflies" wrong? Not at all.  

But, you must anchor your marriage on something stronger than butterflies. 

You must go deep and anchor your love on something solid, otherwise the relationship will begin crumbling as soon as the feelings are gone.

Romantic Love vs. Committed Love

Falling in romantic love is easy because it doesn't take much effort; it just happens. 

But it's just as easy to fall out of romantic love. And that's the problem.

Committed love is different. 

Committed loves requires you to choose to see the good in your spouse everyday, as opposed to focusing on what annoys you about them. 

It requires you to accept them as they are, flaws, quirks and all, without trying to change them.

It's easier to "stay" in love with your partner when your love is anchored in commitment instead of feelings.  

Committed love is choosing to be supportive, affectionate, kind, caring and loyal to the one you love, even when you don't want to or you feel they don't deserve your best.

And it's a willingness to share life with all its unromantic aspects with your significant other.

This week's marriage advice can help you create a stable foundation for love and marriage that is based on commitment versus fickle feelings.

Until next time, this is Mike Tucker, and I want YOU to be mad about marriage!