I intend to write on Mondays. But, transparent confession: A regular rhythm on a regular day seems to be hard for me to follow! I sometimes have nothing to say, and other times a lot in a short space of time. Last week I wrote twice, and there was radio silence for 3 weeks before that.
Can you identify? Do regular rhythms work for you?
I've come to understand this partly from a strengths perspective, and partly from my background in understanding our subconscious mind, and trauma.
What I want to highlight here is not so much how this relates to my life story, but how powerful it is to be aware of, and understand our own patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. The understanding alone can be such a powerful agent - either for forgiving and completely accepting ourselves, or as a catalyst for change.
Nothing can change if we don't start from the awareness of how "it is" right now. Sometimes, we don't need to change a thing, and we can relish in and embrace it. Other times, it causes us pain and suffering - and then we might want to change something so we can have a different future.
There's more than one way to get to know or change ourselves. I've found and used many, many methods over the past 17 years. Some of them I still use (like coaching, EFT and Strengths), while others have fallen by the wayside because it didn't prove all that that useful to me. A mentor taught me once: his loyalty is to the
client, not to the method. So freeing.
A gorgeous friend and I chatted last week - she's a wonderful coach herself, brimming with positive enthusiasm. She mentioned she finally realised she might have some trauma that needs to be resolved, because it feels like the handbrake is on in one area of her life. I
thought that was a beautiful description of how it can feel... we want to push the gas/petrol pedal in our life, but we're going nowhere because the handbrake is pulled up.
So this week I'm here with a simple offer. If there's an area of your life that feels like that, the below might be
helpful.
