"Negative emotions are messengers delivering urgent news
from faraway lands you
lost contact to
Don't shoot the messengers, they are gardeners
bringing tears to water the seeds of a new you"
- Valentina Quarta -
(Sidenote: No emotion is 'negative' in my world! These are the poet's original words.)
We often have 2 problems when we have a dis-ease or health challenge (or any other problem):
• The actual dis-ease /
condition / problem and
• Our reactions to it: How we feel and think about that condition, what we make it mean, our projections into the future, and how we behave as a result
Healing machine
Our
bodies are incredible ‘healing machines’. They know how to repair and renew. I’ve marvelled at the remarkable ability of our body to grow new skin and repair a wound. In the past year I had 2 cancerous moles removed. I watched it heal with great interest. For a while it looks terrible, with gnarly ugly, raised edges to the wound. It looks like it’ll stay that way forever. Then slowly and unbelievably, the edges become softer, the red starts disappearing, the scar fades and becomes a thin,
white line. Remarkable.
Another example:
My father in law recently had a massive wound on his calf muscle, where a skin transplant was necessary. Unfortunately, he kept having infections with resistant bacteria (MSRA and pseudomonas) in the tissue; the surgeon was nog willing to operate only for
the skin grafts to be infected and rejected. So, for months he had a vacuum wound dressing, to give the skin a chance to heal on its own.
I saw a photo the other day of the progress from beginning to end and it absolutely blew my mind. His body closed up the skin from a huge, gaping hole to almost-closed, with no stitches (it could not be stitched because of the size of the wound).
Yes, the body has remarkable capacity to heal. Why would that only be true for the skin? The rest of our body can do that, too.
The extra layers
But, so often do we add layers for the body-mind to deal with… And of course, not on purpose.
It happens because we’re very human, and our brain is designed to keep us safe. It will try to figure things out, and put our attention on it so we can solve the problem. Where there’s pain, our attention goes... that usually creates more pain (another article’s topic) and on and on the cycle goes.
We stress. We worry, we fear, we project how bad it could get in the future. We’re anxious about the
condition, we fret, we fuss, we lie awake and don’t get good rest. Our nervous systems go into overdrive.
All of that creates a complex situation. Not only is the body trying to do the healing job that it’s designed to, but now it also has the added emotional stress. That creates an extra burden on the system’s resources.
Sometimes our body can manage that, and we get well. Other times the stress is just too high, and that can start impacting other areas of our body and mind, too.
The best chance
I do believe we give our body-mind the best chance for healing and regeneration when we can let
go of as much stress and unhelpful emotion as possible. Note I’m not saying all emotion is bad!
Of course, our ultimate aim is that the health condition heals, so that’s what we’d like to work on. And yet - often it is not possible to even get near the root cause or origin of the disease, if we’re carrying so many layers of emotion about the fact that we have the condition!
Do any of these seem familiar?
• I’m terrified of this disease/condition
• I’m scared I’ll never be the same
• It’s taken away my freedom or independence
• I’m consumed by this condition, I just can’t think of anything else
• I’m so tired of dealing with it
• I feel like ‘I AM ‘ this disease (it’s created a new identity)
• I want my old life back, I grieve for the old me
• I am sick with worry
• I’ll never get over this
• ‘So and so’ had this and they never recovered
• My dr said (fill in all the horrible things that medical professionals say without considering the impact on their patients)
• Google says… (fill in all the awful predictions that Google has put into your brain)
• I don’t yet know what’s wrong, doctors have no answers, and that makes me even more anxious
Pictures or
sensations
Or, maybe you’re more aware of images in your mind of the progression. Amazing how that can happen in the blink of an eye.
Personally, my incredibly imaginative brain has shown me the whole projection in a flash… I feel a niggle in my tummy, and my brain shows me a picture of
receiving a terrible diagnosis, and the next scene is on my deathbed or at my grave. All in technicolour. LOL.
Or perhaps, you’re more aware of sensations in your body. Feeling the butterflies of anxiety, nausea due to worry, adrenaline in your arms and legs, tight shoulders, or constant headaches from muscle tension.
Worried about someone else?
Of course, we not only carry concerns about our own health. We also carry the wellbeing of our precious loved ones in our heart, brain and body. If you’re worried about the health of a loved one, the same might happen.
You might have
stressful thoughts like :
• I need to get them to do xyz, they’re not doing enough
• I’m terrified, I don’t want them to leave me
• I’m not coping / I won’t cope
And you might have the same happen with pictures in your brain about their health progression, or sensations in your own body from the stress you’re experiencing.
One thing at a time
Where we start with any problem, is the thoughts,
feelings, sensations we have about the actual issue. Often, they’re like ‘gate keepers’ that can prevent us from looking at the real problem. We need a way to soothe and comfort them, so that our brain can think straight... so we can put our wise thinking caps on, and relax into our intuition.
And that’s exactly what we're going to address in the tapping circle I’m offering.
We'll clear out some of the extra mental and emotional layers we experience around a health issue, so that our brain and body can start relaxing. Then we can think clearer, we can tune into what’s good for us, and we can start exploring why the condition showed up in the first place.
If that’s something you’re interested in, please register
for my upcoming Tapping Circle for Health Concerns below.
I love your replies, so even if the Tapping Circle is not for you, please share your thoughts, musings or just say 'hello'.
