Rushing: Speed + Fear
It is not just speed or moving quickly - it’s the
MOTIVATION behind the speed.
If you are rushing, you are going fast because you are afraid if I don’t, _________ will happen, that I really do NOT want.
Rushing is a “Fear Sign” to me now. When I am rushing, fear is present. When fear is present, something I don’t want is getting energized into being. Now I am very
mindful of rushing…
As you know, I am in the process of building the next summit, on
Self-Love! I’m interviewing experts and teachers from all around the globe to teach you more about self-love and how the lack of it creates our problems and the presence of it creates our dreams.
Wrangling over 20+ experts from all over the world is like herding cats and you get tempted to RUSH. Whenever I start, rushing (come on, gotta get this done today because I am afraid ___________ will happen otherwise…) MORE problems
would come.
One day last week I had 3 interviews set and my internet suddenly went down in my part of the city 2 minutes from the end of an interview I was taping from Belgium!
Then my emails went wiggly, then I couldn’t enter a password I KNEW was right, then another expert had to reschedule…you can see how this was going.
Snowballing into crappy, powered by FEAR.
This is what I call “Spinning” – when you are locked into a negative loop (words, thoughts, events or feelings) that you can’t seem to get out of and it’s feeding on itself. I had to stop – go outside in the sunlight and phone a friend. I had to ask what I was doing to CAUSE all of this chaos?? If you’d like to know 5 Steps to Breaking
Answer: My icky rushing energy had attracted a pile of crazy technical obstacles to me. And remember, problems are not obstacles to be solved, but just indicators of gaps in your self-love. If
I’d kept my attention to trying to solve the internet, the email, the password and the scheduling I’d still be in that mess!
All of those problems were showing me a gap in my own self-love. What was the gap for me? That I had to rush or maybe I’d miss or lose an expert! That is basically
a gap in the old favorite “I’m not good enough and people won’t help (love)
me.”
I got my energy on even keel after spotting & addressing the gap. And when I walked back inside? You guessed it. The internet company had said it might be down for another 6-7 hours but they’d fixed it while I was outside in 45 minutes. My password worked (I KNEW I had the right one!). My emails were behaving. The expert happily rescheduled to the next morning (and the energy for it was soo much better!). All of the problems resolved once I dealt with the reason they came into being.
