Clean & Clear for the New Year #3: Releasing People 🧑‍🤝‍🧑

Published: Wed, 12/15/21

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Releasing People

What Relationship is Too Heavy to KEEP Carrying Next Year?

Einstein said,

“You either think everything is a miracle or you think nothing is a miracle.“

Everything is in order. Divine Order if you like that phrasing as I do. :-)

The first understanding is that the Universe is not in the middle of making a mistake in your life.

Clean & Clear for the New Year #3: Releasing People

Your Struggle Is Not a "Mistake" translates to my

Core Value #1:

There are No Obstacles On My Path.

What does this mean about the person that you need to let go?

It means they are NOT an obstacle, they are a stepping stone.

This relationship was sent to teach you something. If you get busier learning what it was sent to teach you, rather than trying to “fix“ your teacher…the problem it appears to present will fade away!

You always want the Universe working like this, for you, on your “obstacles.“

This is the harmonious way to end a relationship, friendship, partnership or marriage. The only clean, clear and harmonious path is to let it be done at the direction OF the Universe.

When and IF you outgrow the circumstance you presently feel trapped by, you will be promoted.

>>>So how do we clean and clear to release people?

Allow the full truth of your situation with no resistance, meaning not trying to polish up the facts, hide from any of it or change the person generating the obstacle. (Re-read that.)

In order to cleanly release a person, you have to first be non-resistant to them. You allow them to be whatever they are, even if that’s being an ass.

Example: let’s say they are a heavy smoker and it’s driving you insane that they are endangering your health and their health.

Non-resistance is where you say: they are a heavy smoker & aren’t stopping and I do NOT choose that for me anymore.

Resistance is where you say: “YOU really need to stop smoking. YOU promised me you’d stop smoking. I can’t believe you’re still doing this to us! What is this teaching the kids?!”

Can you see the difference? Can you FEEL the difference?

If you feel you need to let go of a person or relationship, FIRST let go of your need to change that person or relationship.

Then “look around” at the truth and trust your heart to bring you the path forward of least resistance for you both.

This is the ART OF SELF RESCUE.

Making space in your life and clearing out relationships that no longer serve your good is about YOU, not them. It’s for YOU, not them. So the work to be done is YOURS to do.

In Joy,

P.S. Leaving a toxic relationship is almost easy compared to leaving the GOOD to clear space for the GREAT.

Adele did that. Listen to her beautiful words about that here. She’s singing to her son explaining why she had to get clear of a marriage that was never going to be what she needed. Brave Alpha.

Adele - Easy On Me

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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