Seek to Feel Safer So You Won't NEED to Control Everything

Here’s an example of control & fear:

I live in Australia. On Christmas day my husband and I are leaving in an RV (caravan for those down under) to travel within our state for two weeks.

My road trip has nothing to do with you. Soo....you are NOT afraid of things not getting done or how we will get ready to travel. That means… drumroll… you don’t NEED to be in control of my trip!

Now imagine your teenage son or husband was going on a 14-day road trip!

You’d start a list. You’d warn to avoid dangerous spots along the way. You’d ask for ‘check-in’ calls & question the car's reliability.  Why? Because your FEARS grab onto the trip -> desire to CONTROL grabs onto it too!

Here’s the Secret: STOP trying to release control directly!

Instead, figure out a way to give yourself extra COMFORT around whatever you fear losing.

My husband doesn’t like to plan. (Remember, planning is a euphemism for “control.” )

Old me would’ve DEMANDED a plan because I’d be afraid we’d have an uncomfortable trip with no RV park reservations & itinerary during peak vacation time at CHRISTMAS.

Me right now? I looked at my fear - that we might run out of power. I'm bringing a rechargeable lantern and power supply for my phone.  Ta Dah! Now…can see this as a crazy adventure! Fears reduced, fingers crossed. 

What did I do?

I addressed my FEAR and comforted myself, so the NEED to control naturally lessens.

This week. Look squarely at one of you fears and figure out what you need to feel safer. Do it and RELEASE SOME CONTROL.

Those around you will thank you for this!