Boost Your Self-Love: Silence 🤫

Published: Wed, 02/16/22

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Boost Your Self-Love

Most people that I’ve met may find it hard to imagine me being silent.

But I actually have wonderful periods of introversion.

It is in these introspective silences that I make room for the “rest of me“ that is NOT an extroverted spiritual teacher and high conflict trial lawyer.

There are Two Different Ways That Silence Can

Help Boost Your Self-Love:

1. Shut off the noise and busyness of your outer life and make some time to go into the silence so you can notice what’s wrong (or right!) with your inner self.

2. Be silent about somethings that concern you - meaning be extremely selective about who you bring your sorrows to.

Make some space for SILENCE.

(This is highly underrated.)

You don’t need to have a meditation practice or even a prayer practice to recognize that just BEING in a space where nothing is moving, no one needs you and there’s not an immediate time pressure is restorative.

The trick is to practice “being.“

And yes I said practice! Being unfortunately does not come naturally to us after about the age of four years old.

See how long you can sit in the silence before your very busy monkey mind tries to pull you out of it to “go do some thing.“

When you really deeply understand, value and love yourself, you make time for the different facets of your inner self, not just the outer.

Go into the silence and make time for the inner.

Start with five minutes, even if it’s in the shower. It makes a difference and it signals to yourself that you don’t have to be “performing“ every minute to earn your way to love.

You've probably heard my advice above. But this advice – being silent about something that's worrying you, is less conventional.

This past week I was dealing with a serious medical concern with my husband.

It felt more self-loving to me to be silent than it would've to post it everywhere and solicit attention and well wishes.

Why? In part, because not everyone can hold the space for faith and belief the same way that you can.

Giving a problem or a crisis to certain people can backfire.

They can magnify and reflect your worries BACK to you, leaving you feeling less safe and less loved.

Sometimes, it is best to keep silent, at least from the majority.

Those in my world who know me and how I believe and can be trusted to hold positive thoughts were enrolled.

Those whose plates were already filled to overflowing and are struggling in their own concerns, I gave them the grace of not needing to handle me too.

I want you to carefully note, this is not me sacrificing myself for them. It's me determining what would best suit MY emotional needs.

Only discussing things with a small handful of people best suited my emotional needs.

THAT decision was Self Loving.

Boost Your Self Love with Silence this week.

In Joy,

P.S. He's doing better. And I am very happy with the peace I bought myself from not having to respond to hundreds of well-wishers (that actually costs energy too).

Sometimes you need lots of voices around you,

and sometimes you need SILENCE.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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