The Other Shoe Drop Syndrome: How to Shift It... 👠

Published: Wed, 05/18/22

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We know what OSDS is: A Defense Mechanism

Against Future Loss and Disappointments.

We know where OSDS comes from: fueled by your deepest fears

around not deserving to keep all you have.

Ok Alphas!

OSDS should have your full attention now.

How do we shift this self-sabotaging habit?

The Other Shoe Drop Syndrome: How to Shift It... 👠

There are only TWO solutions.

Hmm, well ONE solution goes to the core of it (my preference)

and ONE practice will lessen the impact of OSDS over time.

The Solution:

By whatever means you have at your disposal,

do the deepest inner work of your life to release the core belief that

YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

Soften the core beliefs that YOU ARE NOT SAFE

and LOVE IS NOT SAFE.

My personal variation on the latter was:

LOVE REQUIRES SACRIFICE, PAYMENT & STRUGGLE.

You can see that as long as THAT was in my core,

I’d always trigger OSDS when relationships went well,

love was shown to me or even an opportunity for love arrived.

I do this work with my private clients and there is no “prescribed path” to surfacing and rewriting these patterns.

I can only tell you that growing out of your smaller, fear based self (that came about for good reasons!) IS the gold standard for ending OSDS.

The Practice:

This one you won’t be excited about because Alphas are “doers”. This won’t feel aggressive enough to many of you.

Here goes: I have been having you do 'The Practice' already

by bringing your active attention to your OSDS.

You will keep triggering your OSD pattern in the beginning. But if you are diligent in looking out for it, over time it will lessen and you’ll be able to “talk yourself out of your crazy”. Then you won’t predict, expect and PLAN for trouble soo reflexively (unconsciously) moving forward.

Awareness is 80% of change ladies.

Soo, get to work Alphas. :-)

Even just shifting your awareness, so you are on the lookout for your own “protective measures” that shoot you in the foot is HUGE!

Happy Shifting!

In Joy,

P.S. Growing past my OSDS changed my life. I can now let in veritable MOUNTAINS of good, without anxiety or over functioning.

Can you imagine what your life would be like if you could be

on your own side, ALL THE TIME?

It’s magical. It's a Happily Ever After.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 22-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

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