They are packed full and stressful with family. And we Alphas are usually in charge of making sure EVERYONE ELSE gets what they want.
You try to
protect every last body…(not limited to and even including visiting family dogs)…BUT you. 
So how can we take back YOUR
holiday?
Pick ONE word, as your energy and mood’s focus.
My word this holiday season is: Easily.
I am focused on doing things EASILY.
I am choosing to decline tasks that don’t FEEL EASY.
I will step back from any situation over the holidays that begins to get stressful or complicated.
Not Easy? NOT INTERESTED.
And next, figure
out the ONE thing you really want to happen over Christmas/New Years. The ONE thing you’ll take steps to ensure,
plan and control.
Why?
Because I recommend that you prepare yourself to let go of, get unattached to and take the “it has to happen” control/planning energy off EVERYTHING else.
Done perfectly, you communicate to your family what your ONE thing is. (So they know better than to impede it!)
You can also invite them to figure out and each share their
“ONE” must happen thing is.
This introduces total flexibility into the holidays which will prevent a great deal of drama, demands and chaos.
My ONE must happen thing?
My kitchen remodel and it’s last major bits - stone countertops and granite sink arrive December 7th & 8th. That’s
it!
(Note: Only an Alpha decides to update her 48 year old kitchen with less than 2 months to Christmas, in an island country that considers being “laid back” a national aspiration. 
)
My expectations outside of that are set to LOW.
Pick ONE thing to control.
Pick ONE focus to hold yourself steady.
And let the rest of the holidays come and go. (Easily.) We’ll be fine.
