Which is YOUR Higher Priority?
Celebrating vs Planning
As an Alpha
woman you are designed to plan, but not to celebrate.
Why? Let’s look.
Planning Gives Alphas:
The sense of CONTROL we need because deep down we are afraid.
Afraid of losing what we have or not getting what we need. And we KNOW no one else will help us. So we take control. We PLAN for everything.
It’s like our candy and pacifier all in one.
But Celebration?
We make sure that we “plan” those for other people.
Celebration makes us nervous. Nervous that things are going TOO well and at any minute, the other shoe will drop.
Celebrating makes us nervous that we need to keep our “foot on the gas“ and “eye on the prize.“
It also triggers our feelings of “not
enough-ness”.
Who do you think you are to pause and take credit?
So usually we've already begun the next thing, before we’ve barely finished the last. We overlap and never quite celebrate.
Worse, we teach this bad habit to our children, most especially our
daughters. We make them driven and unable to graciously accept praise (i.e. Alphas like us).
Do you want to know what celebration is in its most basic form?
Shared Gratitude.
So really, this is a question of where your priority is…
In being more grateful or in exercising more control?
The Alpha Priority is CELEBRATING (Sharing Gratitude from
love)
rather than PLANNING (Controlling from fear).
Become more mindful of celebrating yourself and accomplishments. You can still take over the world next week. Promise ;-)
