Remember, this is specifically not about struggle or sacrifice.
So if you have a 17-year-old who won’t do their laundry (and they should be doing their laundry) and you do it for them… that’s NOT Doing The Extra!
Why? Because doing a near adult's laundry has more than a
hint of enabling and over functioning in it. And if it’s some kind of “no gym clothes for tomorrow” emergency, it smacks of our Alpha tendency to rescue.
The Extra at home should be something you do not regularly do.
Something you are not obligated or at least don't feel obligated to do.
I cook dinner every night but Wednesday. So making dinner cannot be
The Extra, but the menu can be. So last night’s menu I prepared extra food for hungry men, their favorites.
Pumpkin Tomato soup with sour cream for dipping Butter Chicken Bites plus warm tortillas with fresh grated cheese, for my garlic kebab turkey meat.
It's Extra because I cooked soo many things simultaneously
that were all stand-alone favorites.
The idea of
The Extra came to me on my walk today. I decided to walk in town along the river, instead of near my home. Walking in our beautiful park, looking at the view, I stopped and had a conversation with a black swan (the bird was at least listening!).
Filled with love and happiness, I walked a few more steps and saw the top of a McDonald’s plastic sundae cup on the ground.
Even though I didn’t have any gloves, I picked it up and carried it the 25 feet to a garbage can.
No one saw me. No one asked me to.
I was even out of sight of the swan :-)
That, was The Extra.
Done from joy to create more joy & peace. There
were many other women out walking. Now none of them would have to feel bad looking down at that single piece of plastic in an otherwise pristine park.
Where at home can you Do The Extra from joy this week?