Hard Question Month: Work. Why Can’t I Leave My “Dayjob” to Pursue My Dream Work? 💼♥️

Published: Wed, 05/24/23

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Short answer: You aren’t ready yet.

Yeah. I know. That sucks.

Let’s go a bit deeper into why you aren’t ready,

when you WANT to be.

Hard Question Month: Work. Why Can’t I Leave My “Dayjob” to Pursue My Dream Work? 💼♥️

Day Job vs Dream Job

My intuition told me to check my archives for a blog training I did on a common misunderstanding Alphas have around the word “ready”.

Ready - You think it’s a FEELING that comes over you! Nope!!

Double Nope!

Readiness is a DECISION that you choose to make before…

drumroll…you FEEL ready.

You only FEEL READY AFTER YOU DECIDE TO BE READY.

In looking for that, I found this poem I wrote years ago. It may be perfect for you right now.

A Poem..

Why Can’t I Go?

Why can’t I go?

It’s not that there are no chances or spots or places to for me to be

It’s not that I actually totally cannot see

It’s just when these opportunities come and FIND me

There’s always a “NO” inside that blinds me

But still I read the books and into conferences I go

I felt the ‘A-ha’ a hundred times and then thought “NOW I know!”

Yet…still…why can’t I go?

The law says there’s only love and fear gives ever a bad end

But I still I lash out in anger at my family and my friends

Tanya shows choices and actions. Just start. Hey, here’s how.

I believe her. I know she’s right. And I’ll do it. Just…not…now.

Then I start to spin and start wondering again WHO I am

And the softest whisper in my heart reminds me that – I CAN

And still I find 1000 ways to pretend I don’t say NO

My new life is knocking – why the hell can’t I go?

It’s the money, I don’t have it and maybe the kids, they need me too

But I feel like a fraud every time I don’t do what I should do

I wish there was a button, a pill or a potion

There’s got to be something for FREE that will keep my butt in motion

And every time I have the chance – whenever it comes by

I say next time, tomorrow, maybe later. And then I wonder… why?

I know there is no perfect timing, no way to be secure

I know that putting things off never “sparks” a cure

I WANT to change. I WANT to serve. Oh God please help me grow.

And still I have no reason, with ALL this truth I know…

So very clear that love and joy depend on seeds I sow –

So, why, oh why…why don’t I just MAKE myself go?

Tanya Dyer, Esq.

Why can’t you leave the day job for the dream job?

Assuming you’ve vetted your new path and it will feed you,

you are in two inner minds. And a divided house cannot stand (or quit!).

You’ll need to do the inner work to determine why you cannot go and then heal that fear/wound/resistance.

Only then can you can decide to be ready.

P.S. This was the graphic from the blog post with the poem. Around 6+ years old! I called myself a "Transformation Coach" way back then.

It sounds crazy but almost ALL your resistance is to the STARTING. You have to make yourself begin!

Once you begin, momentum kicks in.

So yes, often, even when it’s our dream,

we have to MAKE ourselves begin.

Helping High Achievers Transform Stressful Marriages

After her 2011 divorce, Tanya set out to learn WHY soo many marriages fail. She used what she learned to save her 2nd marriage and found her calling to Save YOURS too.

She is a 25-year Divorce Lawyer, Founder of a High-Conflict Divorce Firm, Author of 'The Smart Guide to Life After Divorce', Mensa Member, Advanced Clinically Certified in Hypnotherapy, Metaphysics PhD Candidate, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker & Life Coach.

Her coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor.

Her greatest credential is finally separating Struggle from Success in Life & Marriage.

Find Even More on the Resources page of the website: www.FearlessFocusCoaching.com/Resources

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