Step 2 - Relationships Are For GIVING Love First, Not Receiving
Relationships are a place you should be going to GIVE not receive.
You can learn this is 60 seconds.
Dinner party. Pot luck. Everyone is coming to the party looking to GIVE. Result? Everyone has MORE than enough and no one is "burdened".
Now imagine that same pot luck dinner, only NO ONE BRINGS ANYTHING but empty containers to take home other people's food! Everyone arrives prepared to RECEIVE but there is nothing to SHARE. (Hello modern relationship headed toward disaster).
And yes, Alphas often get into relationships where you are always the COOK and "they" always arrive with the empty containers.
Only A is love and works out well for EVERYONE all the time! B screws everyone and C screws one person continually (See The Dark Side of Giving).
Love, as commonly taught, is actually a goal to BE loved. But that is backwards and results in a lot of hungry people, a lot of empty containers and very little food to share.
The good goal is seeking to feel your own worthiness (self-love) and then seek a relationship where you can confidently give your love. In doing this, you are being taken care of as you caretake.
And just so you know this concept isn't new - here is part of the Peace Prayer of
St. Francis (I went to St. Francis Prep High School):