Alphas love, love, LOVE being strong and independent. So what telegraphs TRUE strength? Vulnerability.
Vulnerability – Alpha Life Coach Definition: The courage to tell your truth without trying to control the outcome of that truth.
Remember, Alphas resort to control when stressed. It takes STRENGTH to not try to control an outcome, ESPECIALLY when you are pretty sure your truth won’t go over well.
When you are strong and you KNOW you can control the outcome of your choices, taking action isn’t all that impressive. You are risking nothing. In your fierce, Alpha woman warrior you have TRAINED yourself NOT to show vulnerability.
So you push and arrange and hold all your fears and doubts and aloneness inside. THAT is what bullies do. THAT is what dictators do. THAT shows imbalance and destroys relationships.
Vulnerability lets those weaker than you feel safe with you. When you are Teflon coated and nothing sticks to you and no hurt, no mistake, no emotion is seen in you – PEOPLE DO NOT TRUST YOU. Subconsciously, you do not feel human and relatable. So even though strong and competent, your “softer” competitor
will win. (I have lost things by appearing to perfect, to prepared, too smart with no weakness. Have you?)