"Instead of having productive conflict discussions about tangible issues, couples [really argue] about how one partner may not pay much attention to the other’s needs, or may not express much interest in things that their partner cares about.

While the science behind what drives couples to lose their emotional connection can be quite complex, we use a simple concept that can help couples reconnect: The Emotional Bank Account."

Click HERE to find out more about the Emotional Bank Account!

Here is another view of betrayal that looks at what specifically breaks relationships (note: it is not the betrayal, it is the intention behind it!)

"Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.

Partners may be aware of this disloyalty to each other, but dismiss it because it’s “not as bad as an affair.” This is false. Anything that violates a committed relationship’s contract of mutual trust, respect, and protection can be disastrous.

Betrayals are founded on two building blocks: deception (not revealing your true needs to avoid conflict) and a yearning for emotional connection from outside the relationship.

[In this article] are three betrayals that ruin relationships. Only by confronting and taking responsibility for them can couples reestablish their trust in each other."