This practical, innovative book describes today’s porn, and how we respond to it, including:

• How couples can deal productively with conflict about one partner’s porn use
• How parents can help their kids deal with troubling images they might see—and reduce parents’ anxiety in the process
• What people can do if they’re concerned about their own porn use—and why “porn addiction” is the WRONG approach
• The actual content of most porn (in contrast with the exaggerated, mythical content)
• The historic change in America’s anti-porn critique: from an immorality problem (porn is dangerous for the user) to a public health danger (porn is dangerous for everyone), inviting a whole new group of stakeholders to fight porn’s existence.

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FROM THE BOOK SITE:

Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With In Each Other's Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.

Drawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning―a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing “takes time to learn,” Tatkin says. “And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone.”

Throughout In Each Other’s Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to:

• Identify the source of unhappiness in your relationship
• Learn techniques for preventing problems before they occur
• Heal the emotional wounds of the past
• Transform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes
• Renew broken connections and return to intimacy

"Despite pornography viewing being an increasingly common behavior, we know very little about its potential impact on romantic couples. The large proportion of the teen and adult population who report using pornography all but guarantees that most romantic couples must navigate, either openly or privately, the role pornography plays in their relationships. It remains unclear how couples are navigating these trends—particularly since we know there are well-documented differences between men’s and women’s use of pornography.

We recently released a report detailing our preliminary findings from a new survey entitled the National Couples and Pornography Study. This study was fielded in 2020 and was sponsored by the Wheatley Institution and the Austin Institute. Our study consists of two related samples that were recruited from across the United States based on quotas for age, race, education level, and geographic region aimed at creating a demographically diverse sample. The first sample consists of 3,750 individuals who are in committed heterosexual couple relationships. The second sample consists of 713 matched heterosexual couples (1,426 individuals).

In our study, we examined the impact of pornography use on couple relationships (see our summary here). We also looked at couple relationships patterns related to pornography use. In particular, we looked at what could be called the four “Cs” of couple pornography patterns—concealment, communication, concerns, and conflict."