Hello , I hope you are okay?
It seems very opportune that I am again talking about Climate Coaching this time, bearing in mind that in the UK we have been sweltering under the hottest temperatures we have ever experienced. When I got in my car on Tuesday for an unavoidable journey, the dashboard told me it was 47 degrees.
More about climate coaching
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There are lots of committed and effective people working in climate change, and coaches have a particular role to play. We help people to navigate change;
when it boils down to it, what people want when they come to a coach is for something to change.
Charly Cox and Sarah Flynn have written extensively about this in 'Climate Change Coaching' and as I read the first few chapters I can already see that
it's going to be the standard work. The change we want is for the world to heal and not burn, and for everyone to do their bit in bringing this about.
But when it comes to change, it's mostly not that people don't have the necessary information; for whatever reason we can simply feel unable to act. It's too big/someone else will do it/we've run out of time/I am powerless. These feelings - which are completely natural and must be honoured - can sap our motivation to do
even the little we thought we might. Coaching helps to get through this, to a place where we can act, by harnessing what we feel about all this, and in coming from a non judgmental space.
Wouldn't it be good if you could be in a conversation where you can safely let all of this out, and then see more clearly what's yours to do? That's what climate coaching offers.
Another way to start this kind of discussion, whether with a coach, our families, friends, workmates is with Linda Aspey's model With the Earth In Mind. it's free to download here, with attribution to Linda please, if you share it further. Working through the
model, on our own or with a coach, helps us explore what we think and feel about these enormous issues, working out what we can do. To give you a taste, Linda speaks of our three identities - Me, You, Us, that help to bring us to wholeness; integrating the Head Heart and Hands for 'a clear head, a brave heart and steady hands'; the six elements of context, mind, emotions, spirit, values and body. She uses the image above to facilitate discussions, starting simply with what you feel drawn to
in it, when you see the full size image.
Happy to discuss further if you would like to - just get in touch.
Our dip into research studies this week is about arguments. We all have them, and if we don't resolve them, we can feel bad about it for some days, which in turn can have negative effects on our health and well-being. Hence the old tag about not letting the sun go down on your wrath.
Psychologists have studied this phenomenon and found much truth in this - those who did resolve their arguments did report feeling happier and calmer the next day.
One of the main variables they found was age - older people were less likely to have unresolved arguments in the first place. This could be due to greater life experience and practice in handling arguments and perhaps greater emotional resilience.
So the best thing to do is to get older! But while we wait, we can learn and improve our conflict resolution skills. One that I find very useful is to own the feeling - rather than saying 'You make me
miserable when you don't tidy up' I might rather say, 'When the place is untidy I feel X'. This comes over less threatening.
What's your best argument tip?
It's based on the neuroscience of fear and trust; the fundamental idea is that if we do not feel safe in an interaction, we almost literally will not hear what is really being said, we will go into a stressful protective response and the conversation will not go as we might want. It's a fascinating read and requires no prior
specialist knowledge. It's full of illuminating stories and anecdotes and is definitely one of my top ten recommendations.
Latest goings-on at This Coaching Business
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- Like I said above, climate change continues to get more and more urgent, and I cannot stress this enough. So I'm still doing my best to spread the word about this. Do please consider joining my free updated list, as well as checking out my climate coaching packages in my Shop.
- I shall be adding downloadable exercises and worksheets to my Shop soon, to give you a taste of what you might get when you work with me. I'll let you know when they're ready. Meanwhile if you think of some you'd like, for
issues that face you right now, let me know and I'll prioritise them. The first one will be about working out your values and what needs to be in place for you to honour them.
- If you're thinking of working personally with me, I always recommend that we first have a free intro call (updated link) to make sure coaching is
right for you before we start. If I don't think it is, I'll say so and try to signpost you to what else would be helpful. I'm limiting my one to one work at the moment due to a family illness but I do still have space for a couple of clients over the next month.
- You can see all my coaching packages and e-books on this link here to my shop, and you can check my availability on the (updated) button below. And if you can't see a suitable time, contact me anyway and I'll do my best to find one for you.
I've updated my Linktree, about everything that I'm involved in, on the first button below. Also the three free quizzes, that help you to pinpoint where you can best make changes in your situation. You can repeat them for free whenever you like to see your progress over
time.
Thanks for your time, - have a good weekend, keep safe, and I'll be in touch again in a couple of weeks,
All best wishes,
Barbara
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