Always grateful; not always graceful

Published: Tue, 08/31/21

Nita Sweeney

Dear :

Saturday was a BIG BIG BIRTHDAY! Six decades. Sixty years of life. 

Mango made it even bigger by extending an offer for another book contract! More about that below.

I wish I could say I handled turning 60 with grace.

Instead, my inner three-year-old moped because the pandemic robbed her of the surprise birthday party her big sister wanted to throw. While the adult me knew the "grown ups" would have made my 60th a huge deal if they could have, all day Saturday that tiny person deep inside kept throwing fits.

I also wish I could report that I immediately wrapped my arms around that tiny being. I would have saved face by acknowledging her more quickly.

Near the end of the day, once I finally heard her cries, I asked what she needed. Her answer was clear. If she couldn't have a party, she just wanted someone to sing happy birthday to her while she blew out a candle.

I rifled through our kitchen drawers until I found some red chile-pepper shaped candles from our years in New Mexico. I carried one into Ed's office where he was getting ready for bed, and lit it.

As Ed and I sang our horridly wonderful rendition of Happy Birthday, I let that tiny being make a wish, and blew out the candle. With that, she relaxed and so did I.

Not everyone needs these dialogues with their "inner child." And, I don't need them all the time.

But when I do, ignoring or shaming or yelling at this tiny inner person does more harm than good. When I let her have a voice, it helps us both find solace.

Yes, I'm still the adult. No, she can't always have her way. She didn't get a giant party in the middle of a pandemic when virus numbers, hospitalizations, and deaths continue to skyrocket.

But when I found that candle and we sang, that part of me felt seen and heard. That's all she ever wanted.

Do any of you have this type of dialogue with parts of yourself? Whether or not you relate, I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences.


I'm over the moon to share that Mango will publish my next book. The working title is MAKE EVERY MOVE A MEDITATION: Mindful Movement for Mental Health and Well-Being. It's due out Fall of 2022. Stay tuned for more details as I put my head down and get to work on it.


I continue to post movement meditation videos on Instagram. Do you have a focus when you exercise? If that interests you, please check out my videos and let me know if you find them helpful.


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The next cohort begins September 7th.


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 Depression Hates a Moving Target and You Should Be WritingIf you enjoyed either book and haven't had a chance, please leave a review. Even a few words go a long way.

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Take care and be well.

~ Nita 
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About Nita:
Nita Sweeney is the award-winning wellness author of the running and mental health memoir, Depression Hates a Moving Target: How Running with My Dog Brought Me Back from the Brink and co-creator of the writing journal, You Should Be Writing: A Journal of Inspiration & Instruction to Keep Your Pen Moving. A certified meditation leader, ultramarathoner, and former assistant to writing practice originator Natalie Goldberg, Nita founded the group Mind, Mood, and Movement to support mental well-being through meditation, exercise, and writing practice, and The Writer’s Mind , to share how to use writing practice to produce publishable work. Nita also publishes the writing resource newsletter, Write Now Columbus. She lives in central Ohio with her husband, Ed, and their yellow Labrador retriever, Scarlet. Follow her on your favorite social media channels!

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