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How did it go with you this week?
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I had to practice Fierce Kindness with myself yesterday... I was trying to get this week's article written (How to use the Kindometer) and I ran out of time.
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We all get too much email, so I want to send you things that are helpful, inspiring and interesting. But while this article is written, it's far from finished...
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But I told people the "how to" article would be this week...
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Of course my critic pops up: you didn't start early enough *stupid*, you should have planned this out better, you never learn do you? (My critic used to be a lot worse than this, so this is pretty good!)
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So, my process for dealing with my critic is this: 1) Notice the critic is active (usually because I feel icky or anxious), 2) Acknowledge and listen to see what's going on (see above) then 3) Soothe and reassure the critic (and prevent further bullying!). Lastly, importantly, 4) Making a plan to resolve whatever happened...
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Step 3) is the Fiercely Kind piece. Kindly yet strongly reassuring my panicking critic that "I've got this" and NOT allowing any further abuse.
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And Step 4) is essential, because without a "plan" or decision (even if the plan is to take no further action), the critic will keep worrying and popping up...
So my Step 4) this week? Share something relevant and useful from the Fierce Kindness article library!
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And this article is a favourite of mine:
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Because so many of us want to be "good" that we end up doing things for others at our own expense. It's a hard habit to break - but it starts with awareness.
