Believing we are who we want to be.
The focus of my newsletters, broadly speaking, is about my passions. I like to write about my widely varied interests. Writing is my way of being me. Maybe this will inspire you to do the same about you!
Sometimes these newsletters focus on my educational business and the importance of my relationships and connection with my students and parents. However, several have addressed and will continue to explore my interests, including but not limited to; travel and taking ownership of my life in this rapidly changing world.
It is so easy to feel as if we are losing control.
In today’s uncertain times, many of us are up all night “worrying” about the future. Since most of us are action-oriented, instead of worrying, we think about what we need to change:
- Maybe we need to change jobs or our career NOW before it is “too late” (whatever that means).
- Maybe we need to get back to school since our hours have been cut at work.
- Maybe it is time to move (since everyone else is doing that)...but, we need to take a moment and ask ourselves if we're simply following the crowd though.
- Maybe we need (I know I do) to take a serious look at ourselves and what we think we do well, that may not in fact be reality.
I went on a six week trip to Idaho, Montana, Utah and Nevada to decide where I felt I possibly wanted to move to. I was more confused when I returned than when I left. Then, I read a book by James Clear called Atomic Habits
How many times in our lives do we vow to make changes to our lives and change our habits? And, of course, those changes don’t stick.
Now, I know why, I did NOT see myself as someone who could make those changes.
(How do I really see myself, in general?)
I have been terrible being consistent about the things I love—writing, publishing this newsletter, etc. Why?
I learned from Atomic Habits that we fail like this when we don’t believe we are the kind of person who is successful.
- “That fit guy who did the same program I was starting,,,I doubt I can do it.”
- “I know I can write that book, but I just don’t see myself as actually finishing it."
- "I don’t know that I am really that kind of person to …. actually do it.”
Does this mindset sound familiar?
I realized that moving isn’t the only change that is going to help me get control of my life. I will still be me. HERE IS A BLOG POST
where I deal with my issues with consistency.
Maybe you can relate and learn from my experiences.
The whole process of life has changed in the last two years. We have to think and do in a manner that most of us have never considered a possibility—or, for which we have planned previously in our lives.
More than anything else, we must not only refuse to succumb to a mindset of losing control, but we must recognize that these feelings may be an everyday occurrence, so we must not give in to it.
We are going to have to fundamentally change modes of thinking and acting, I believe.
We must actually believe we are capable and even worthy of being the person we need to be.