Do you want to know the biggest red flag that we see in the high conflict couples that we work with? Hands down, it is defensiveness - refusal to take responsibility for one's behaviors and instead defending, rationalizing, justifying, blame shifting and minimizing the behaviors and the impact it has on your
mate and on your relationship. The bottom line is, you can't change what you don't own! Watch our latest video on why defensiveness is the number one reason couples stay stuck in the same dysfunctional patterns and are unable to make any real, significant progress in their counseling.