In our extensive work with couples, we have found that people often fall into one of two categories.  There's the over-functioner, the one who does everything and anything to try to fix the relationship.  Then there's the under-functioner, the one who believes that things aren't that bad, that you're just blowing things out of proportion, and avoids all and any efforts to address the problems in the relationship.  The more you over-function to fix the relationship, the more your partner is likely to under-function and resist all your efforts. If you find yourself caught in this downward spiral, find out what you need to do instead to bring about healthy change in your relationship.   

"What if my spouse refuses to go to counseling?" 

This is a question we get asked often.  Most people believe that if their spouse refuses to go to counseling, they are out of options and that there is nothing they can do.  In fact, this is not true.  One of the core beliefs we hold here at the Marriage Recovery Center is that your healing is not dependent on another person. 

Sign up for a 3-hour Mini-Intensive to learn how to move forward in your healing and show up well in whatever situation you find yourself, regardless of what your spouse chooses to do or not to do.