I've been wanting to share this story with you, .

You girls know that I am a high achiever girlie except in my early 20's, I was really dialed into that girlboss anything a man can do, I can do too energy. 

And because of that, I had this really blunt, a little abrasive, my way or the high way, too good for anyone kind of attitude. It was the sort of confidence that said "I have something to prove."

So even in relationships, I didn't know how to be soft. I was exacting, in my masculine, go go go. And without a doubt, things started piling onto my plate. 

Fast forward to just before meeting my fiancé, I spent a lot of time reflecting on how what I truly wanted - to be loved and adored by a provider minded man - was not being reflected in the actions I took in my day to day life. 

I wanted to be those girls who were soft and sweet and got what they want!

I had finally realized that the girls who win at life and have it the easiest, who are spoiled and so adored have a very soft feminine attitude that makes the men around them want to protect them and take care of them. 

Yet here I was, strong willed, independent, blunt, abrasive, dude-ish in my mannerisms, wanting some Prince Charming to treat me like his princess? 

Aint no way baby girl!

So I practiced being softer, more accepting, I tried to change the way that I handled situations and lean more into my feminine...but my ex had no plans of getting out of his sassy princess era. 

Which meant we were still arguing and fighting all the time, and I was constantly put back into this masculine state. 

Like I COULD NOT BE a sweet soft feminine girlie around him!

When we broke up, that's when the work began. 

It was like unlocking the cheat code towards life. And I realized just how much I was holding myself back.

Michelin restaurant dinners (that my ex never took me to because he said they were "pretentious")

Court side seat basketball games

Regular sushi dates

Planned out weekends

Napa, Monterey, Big Sur day trips

VIP concerts

Bouquets upon bouquets of flowers...I finally got one of those big forever rose boxes that I have always wanted 🥺🥺🥺

And you might say... well this all requires him to have money. 

And yes, that is true. 

But my ex had money too, he just didn't care about me enough to ever treat me.

But aside from all these material things, these men were also dropping work in the middle of the day to take me to the airport, they went grocery shopping for me, they helped me build furniture and fix my computer, they bought me medicine in the middle of the night when I was sick and helped me clean my apartment, they would serve me food, let me walk on the inside of the sidewalk, never let me carry anything heavy... like these men existed around me all this time?!?

For the first time in my life, I felt like one of the lucky girls who got spoiled just for existing and being me. 

That's the power of your femininity.

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Love you lots,

Your big sis - Nadeen