Dear ,

Me in my early 20's didn't believe in attracting or persuading anyone of anything. 

What you see is what you get - I hated "playing mind games" so I'd lay out all my cards and be like.. this is what I have to offer, take it or leave it. 

You either like me or you don't.

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And because of this kind of attitude-y, indifferent, IDGAF, I'm too good, can't be bothered kind of energy (that I thought all spoiled girlies had), it pushed away a lot of good potential men. 

I didn't know how to be this soft, sweet, and magnetizing girl! I mean, why did I have to be her and be "fake" when I have all these other desirable traits? What is there not to like about me?

But it is this kind of mindset plus our conditioned thinking that mind games are toxic and stupid that cut short, if not completely cut out, a VERY crucial part of dating that drives men - the chase. 

And this is going to sound bad, but for the life of me, I could not and did not understand at the time how some girls who weren't as "good" as me (looks, education, success, background...etc) were in such amazing relationships with these wonderful men while I was stuck with feminine sassy men who I had to take care of! 

Like it was always in the back of my mind where I would think things like "oh he can do better" or "what does she have that I don't?"

And this is the thing with a lot of women who have leveled up herself to a certain height, and you've raised yourself and your standards so high up is that this sort of toxic superiority mindset develops.

You start to think that you're too good to have playful banter.

You start to think that men should be perfect.

You start to think that no man is good enough for you.

You start to feel like you're too classy to engage in any flirty conversations.

You become very rigid in what is right or wrong that it becomes suffocating.

And you become dull. And boring. 

And this is especially hard when you're an introverted girlie like me because it leads to a lot of dead conversations, awkward silence, and ghosting.  

So while you have to be your best self and you have to be your own dream girl, you forget that you also have to be HIS dream girl too. 

You being your own dream girl does the initial attraction, ok? That's your magnetism. Like you got his attention, high caliber men gravitate towards you. 

But now what? 

What are you going to do with his attention? 

How are you going to transform it into something more?

Building a connection to get you past texting, past the first date, and into a long term loving relationship is the next part of the equation. 

There is an art to soft feminine communication a.k.a what I like to call... ethical seduction (because we don't hurt or play good men).

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Love you lots,

Your big sis - Nadeen 

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