Hi ,

A very surreal thing happened to me this morning...

As I sat in bed reading, my fiancé came into the room and gave me some cut apples. 

I had this sudden out of body experience where I could pinpoint the thoughts of old me and current me at the same time. 

It was SO weird to be aware of this. 

My first thought - "Wow, he's the sweetest 🥰"

My second thought - "Why isn't the apple peeled...?"

My third thought - "Interesting... old me would have gotten upset"

(posted this on my story today)

Then I had a realization. 

I was like... old me would choose to be disappointed over something small and complain that he didn't do "good enough" and make him feel bad. 

But current me now knows I can choose a better outcome. 

Why ruin a perfectly good morning and such sweet intentions?

This is how I responded:

The thing is...getting upset and annoyed wouldn't get me what I wanted. 

What did I want? 

Him to be a bit more detailed oriented and take the extra care. 

Would getting upset at him encourage him to make a behavior change and to do more nice things for me? Of course not!

Remember that effective communication is not about expressing your unregulated emotions. 

It's thinking about if the way you're delivering your message gets you what you want. 

Where are some areas in your life that you can improve on this?

Your big sis,

Nadeen xo.

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