Hi ,

Me in all of my early 20's struggled so much because I never understood why it was so hard to change myself, why I would try so hard and always get burnt out, and why my efforts were always wasted.

Whether it came to trying to build healthy habits, lose weight, date better men, read more books, whatever - I could never seem to break out of my mold.

Until I understood that people do not over work for their goals. 

Read that again. 

People DO NOT over work for their goals.

Meaning, we only like to do just enough, the bare minimum lowest effort required to level up ourselves to where we want to be. We do just enough to cross the threshold.

But we will fight for our lives to not go back to where we were. 

For example, you might work on yourself and you'll start seeing that you're attracting some decent men that are drastically higher caliber than the men you use to date. 

So you end up picking one that this new level of you now have access to.

But in actuality, you haven't worked on yourself and leveled up enough to attract the type of men you ultimately want. 

Did you settle? No, because you chose the best man this version of you can get. 

You essentially just stopped and sniffed the roses. 

I almost married the wrong man because he was a "rose" and I thought he was great because he was better than anyone I dated before.

And it wasn't until I realized the "better" does not mean "great" did I break things off.

So if this is not the end-game relationship you truly want and you only chose him because he's better, then , you need to keep going. 

This isn't your stop so don't take yourself off the market so quickly.  

Love you lots,

Your big sis - Nadeen

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