Hi babe!

Happy Friday, .

Do we have any TVD fans here? Because that was one of my favorite shows throughout college. That scene where Damon tells Elena to "turn it off" is kind of the closest thing I can describe as to what I did to reinvent myself to start dating a little over 4 years ago.

I have always been a lover girl - I love my friends as my own sisters and I exhaust every option in every relationship before I call it quits... But what I thought was being "loyal" was just me ignoring my boundaries and letting my self-worth go to sh*t. 

YOU CANNOT LOVE OR GIVE BLINDLY. 

I assumed everyone was as loving, giving and kind-hearted as I was and I loved people for who they were. I showed my love by giving and doing. So I attracted a lot of people into my life who just wanted to use me. 

The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted in a partner, it was that I fell in love too quickly before I knew enough about them...with their words, humor, charm, attention, companionship, fun, false future...

So in order to stop myself from feeling these on-the-surface pointless chemistry sparks, I literally had to become immune to it.

I only focused on my non-negotiables and dealbreakers, and I relentlessly guarded my heart filtering any man I was talking to.

In about four months time, I met my fiancé!

The thing is, you follow me because you are trying to find your person - someone who will love you for you and not hurt you or take advantage of you. But no one's ever taught you HOW to pick the right person or HOW to fall in love. 

Our mom's (if she was even present) usually just told us to: "pick a good man!" But what does that even mean? This very important step is missing!

, there are only two more days until The Valentine's Dating Bootcamp and I'm offering you a 20% off code: Nadeen40 to join us next week.

I'm dedicating an entire session on Day 3 of the Valentine's Day Bootcamp to teach you what I wish our mom's taught us -- how to be intentionally with dating, how to date with a purpose, how to set your non-negotiables and stand your boundaries, how to vet men, and also, when you should walk away.

The sessions on Day 1 and Day 2 both answer the questions of how to stop being the over-giving girl who gets taken advantage of and how to live your life fully as a single girlie ready to attract the man of your dreams. 

I made it so each session can be standalone but it also builds on top of each other so that you get the exact step-by-step process to reinventing your love life.

The only reason I started my online journey to share everything I know with you girls is because I broke free of that forever unfulfilling self-sabotaging love cycle I was in, and met the most wonderful man who truly matches me and loves, cherishes, and dotes on me. 

I want every lover girl to experience this kind of love. Because honestly just need someone to see us...and I see you. 

As of writing this email, there are only 8 spots left in the bootcamp before we are at max capacity.

Hope you can join, love.

Always looking out for you,

Your big sis - Nadeen

P.S: regardless of if you join the bootcamp or not, know that I appreciate and love you so much and that you deserve everything in the world and more! If you do join, I'm excited to see you soon! Reserve Your Spot Now

P.P.S: this is part of my 14 day dating and relationship advice series so if you don't see the preceding ones, check your spam! Otherwise, you can view my previous newsletters in my hub here.