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I've had this conversation plenty of times with my girlfriends, but I felt like it is my responsibility to share this with you girlies as well because you are, after all, one of my inner circle besties 💖
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You know, money and income is often a taboo / sore subject for a lot of people - but it doesn't change the fact that it is a
very important part of life.
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And one thing I need you girls to understand is that a provider minded man will always be a provider minded man - that bit does not come and go with money.Â
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If he's SHOWN you that he wants to and is willing to provide, and he does so - he's solid.
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Money just gives him access.
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The more money he has, the better the lifestyle you'll experience, the more luxurious the gifts -- essentially,
the more creative he can get with how he can use that money to provide because at the end of the day, money is just a tool.
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And there are provider minded men LITERALLY at every income level.Â
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You just have to pick one that suits your lifestyle.Â
And he has to pick a woman within his tax bracket.Â
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And for some women, of course they'd think the more money the better!
And for other women, they really could
care less about the luxury lifestyle.
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To that, I just wanna say that the grass always FEELS like it's greener on the other side but that might not always be the case.
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I have had girlfriends who marry very wealthy and they rarely see their husbands because of how busy he is but she has endless funds to spend however she likes. Are these women happy? I mean, some are. Some enjoy living her unbothered "married yet widowed" life doing her own thing and
occasionally enjoying time with her husband and some of the girls hate it because she's so emotionally unfulfilled and lonely.Â
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I've had girlfriends marry provider minded men who really just don't have the financial ability to fully provide so they go 50/50 on finances but he is the sweetest man alive, he cooks, cleans, is always treating her like a lady, tries his best to take care of her, and saves up when he can to take her on trips or to buy her gifts. They're quite
happy though. But is she living comfortably? Not really, she talks to me sometimes about their money problems and even though she really wants to have kids, she knows she can't give her kids the life they deserve.
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And of course, there are what I like to call the green zone men.Â
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These are men who are decently established, can comfortably provide an enjoyable lifestyle that has some luxury experiences sprinkled in it, who's also very sensible, loving,
kind, and emotionally in tune, who's a provider not just financially but also in his acts of service.Â
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So when it comes down to choosing a man, yes he needs to have all the values you want, but you should also choose for the lifestyle you want.Â
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Always marry for love, just make sure you date from a pool of men who can give you everything you want and need first.Â
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