I'm gonna be honest with you girls...
I feel like we take what men say too seriously that it sometimes blocks us from building a connection.
Like if he makes a comment with no intention of it being rude, we take it personally and take offense in it, then default to block and delete.
And I realize that a lot of girlies on their healing journey go
through this - it's a phase where you don't allow any room for error on the man's side because you're very new to protecting your boundaries and standards so you expect everything to be absolutely perfect, forgetting that we are human!
But when we have healed, and we truly understand ourselves and we're clear on what we allow into our lives, we naturally uphold our boundaries and we don't get offended easily so we no longer feel the need to be so alert and on guard all
the time.
Let me explain.
Let's say you go on a first date, everything goes very well, you can tell that he's into you, and on date two or inbetween dates, he asks you how many relationships you've been in... how would you take this?
Some women get upset!
They think "none of your business!" or "rude!" or you immediately think that "no high value man would ask this question!"
So without a
second thought, you block him. Cut that connection.
Other women answer directly! But, really, it is none of his business, and regardless of your answer, it won't help you in building this new connection.
The truth is... you will get some men who are actually decent men who ask dumb questions because they think they care about the answer, but they really don't.
So as a smart girlie, how should you answer
this?
Here's how I guided one of my private clients to respond: